Do you embrace the chaos? By: Denise Orsulak

Do you embrace the chaos?












I read a Facebook post the other day all about the chaos of life.  You know how it goes….woke up early,  walked the dog, exercised, cooked my kids a real breakfast,  made lunches, worked…ect. ect.,  stayed up until 1 am to get it all done.  It then talked about how the person was going to do it all again the next day.  They were just embracing this chaotic life.  Is this is your life as well?  Is it a hectic nonstop doing everything for everybody?

It’s funny how so many of us wear chaos as a badge of honor.  I think this is a BIG MISTAKE!  Why?  Why?  Why are we doing this to ourselves day after day?  I’m cautioning you, even challenging you to break this cycle.  If this is your day to day, it’s not healthy.  It’s not balanced.  And it’s not sustainable.  It’s also bad for our children to see this behavior day in and day out.

There are plenty of things you can choose not to do or better yet get your spouse, kids, or roommate, to chip in and help do. 

I rarely make my kids their breakfast or lunch on a school day.  They can do that themselves.  I rarely if ever stay up to 1 am to get stuff done.  Most things can wait until the morning.  Sometimes dishes sit in the sink.  And that’s OK.  Everyone who lives in the household can help out.  That’s OK too!  You shouldn’t do it all, even if you think you can! 

Why?

Well those around you may benefit from the experience and responsibility of helping out at home.   It’s not healthy to go, go, go, all the time.  Fatigue, decreased energy, decreased motivation, moodiness are all symptoms of doing too much or burning out.  Your body, mind, and spirit are going to suffer.  When that happens those around you will suffer as well, because we might not be that nice. 

I can go into biology here.  Have you heard of fight, flight, and fright reaction.  The go, go, go person is running on adrenaline all the time.  You have increased stress hormones.  You probably can’t lose any weight even if you are trying.  Eventually your body is going to crash- literally with an accident, sickness, or injury.  There will be a breakdown in the system.

If you are running all the time, you HAVE TO spend time counteracting that with relaxation, yoga, breathing, or meditation or some kind of down time to soothe the nervous system.  Screen (computer and TV) time does not count! 

My advice, STOP EMBRACING THE CHAOS, choose peace and start finding calmness you can create in your life!

Please share your thoughts on this topic below. 

Many thanks and be well!

Denise

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