When you are used to being tightly scheduled, it might be difficult to settle in when you have all the time in the world.  It's tough to be OK with not going, going, going all the time.

It might be difficult deciding what to do.  I usually do not have the luxury of open space in my calendar to decide what to do next.  I know that is my own fault.  It's my choice to keep the schedule I keep.  It would seem strange not to.  Doesn't everyone else do the same thing I do?

When my schedule is packed, I DO NOT HAVE TO CHOOSE.  I don't necessarily have to think and feel.  I  can just keep going mindlessly from one thing to the next.  

​By decreasing what's on my schedule maybe I will get a better understanding of what I love to do.

Check out How to Under Calendar at Be More one of my favorite Blogs Be More with Less by Courtney Carver at the link below:
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 https://bemorewithless.com/under-calendar/ 

What happen to you when there is space in your calendar?  Do you rush to fill it?  Afraid you will get board? Do you wonder what to do next?

In this particular instance for me, I chose to read and in reading, and in reading this sentence popped out for me.  

"Even small casual things take significance if they are washed in space" from A Gift from The Sea by Anne Morrow Lindbergh.

Wow, Anne Morrow Lindbergh has read my mind.  

Maybe you will pick up A Gift from The Sea and explore space and time in your calendar.

I challenge you to not fill in the space as it becomes available in your calendar or even get rid of a thing or two that is already on there.  Maybe you will get the opportunity to see the significance in those everyday small things that we do.

Do you think you can do this?  What would be the most difficult part of creating space for you?  Share in the comments section below so we can all learn from each other, and like and share this blog post so others might ponder their use of their calendar.

With love,

Denise

I recently had a "light bulb" moment.  It was a series of interactions that lead up to the actual "A-HA"!  You know that feeling when you actually fell lighter, like something secret was revealed to you.  A feeling that something finally sank in deeply in your mind.  It could be a little a-ha or something life changing. 

I love these moments of clarity.  It's like little messages from the heavens being revealed to me.  The problem I noted was that I quickly "forgot" all about the a-ha as my day progressed.  It actually didn't take  much time at all for the a-ha to get so dim that I had to really think to get it back.

If we don't focus on the light bulb moment when it comes and continue with the everyday stuff that needs to be done, it starts to burn out, so much so that  you might loose that light all together. 

If you had this happen to you, I would love to hear about it.  OR if you manage to hold onto those moments, HOW do you do it?

I guess I never notice how quickly these moments can fade.  For me that realization was kind of scary.  I do tend to write a lot when things affect me.  (As you can see with this blog). But for some reason this morning I did not.  Maybe I was too into what I had to get done.  Maybe I had family obligations to take care of at the moment. 

If we don't focus on those insights that come to us even in not the best of times.  We might miss out on an opportunity to get to know how we tick, why we are doing the things we are doing, and maybe how to make our lives better. 

My advice to you and myself is to take a little time no matter what is going on during that light bulb moment.  Really process it, take it to heart, remember the feel that comes with the A-Ha.

It might just change your whole being.  Those insights are our soul's way of reaching out to us, of letting us know who we really are, what we really need. 

I hope that you get many light bulb moments in your life.  I encourage you to cultivate the space you need to receive those messages in whatever way works for you.  Be it yoga, meditation, being in nature, daydreaming, or just quiet time.

Thanks for reading.  Keep in touch.

Warmly,

Denise

When we have a lack of focus, nothing gets done well.  You can't be a present and connected parent, boss, spouse, daughter, co-worker or whatever other role you may have without focus.

Focus is key to our success in love, money, and health, or another way to look at is basically having the life you want to live.

And we all have a choice...

Is it important enough for me to pay attention and cultivate that focus? 

For some, the answer is NO.  Some may prefer to deny, manipulate truth, put on the happy face, pretend that everything is OK.

Don't get me wrong finding focus takes courage and effort.  You have to have the courage to look at your life and analyze what is working and what is not honestly and openly. 

Once you have that realization, you have to put the effort into making the changes to move forward in your life.  You might have to have difficult conversations with those around you, you might have to accept where you are failing, you might have to recognize what habits and beliefs are holding you back.

This is NOT AN EASY PATH...but it is necessary for change to happen.  And boy change does not happen quick enough for most of us to keep going.

I am here to tell you TIME IS ON YOUR SIDE, but TIME CAN BE AGAIST YOU AS WELL.  This little catch 22 is difficult to deal with.  Time keeps on ticking.  If you realized that little actions today will and can make big changes in your life later, maybe even much later, than you get it.

Going for a 15 minute walk today instead of  insert your favorite way to waste time: FB, tweeting, watching TV, whatever.

Eating that orange today instead of insert your favorite junk food.

Going to a therapist today to help you get rid of insert what you need to let go of that is toxic in your life.

All these things take time and effort.  You are making little deposits of health, wealth, and well being each time you choose to take this little actions each day.

These actions move you forward.  And will change your life.  But you have to have the focus and you have to have the courage, and you have to do the work, BUT a LITTLE EVERYDAY will make a big difference, so I'm here to tell you, you can do it! 

There are many ways to cultivate that focus

• Write down what's important to you
• Meditate
• Go to yoga
• Ask someone to keep you accountable
• Work with a professional: coach, therapist
• Exercise
• Laugh with you family
• Do one thing at a time
• Be positive

Find out what works for you and do a little bit everyday!

I promise you that TIME IS REALLY ON YOUR SIDE and you can do it!

Love,

Denise

Let There Be Light
 
Recently, as I helped set up class for another teacher, I took a few moments to light a long line of candles. As I did so I found myself watching quite closely to see what it looks like when the wick lights...what can I see that tells me the candle is lit? I see a bit more brightness, just a bit more light. Sometimes a tiny and slightly separate flame appears. It only takes a few seconds, and the signs of the new light are small, but visible if I watch and wait, even if only briefly.
 
As I was doing this, it occurred to me that this is a bit like teaching someone something new or sharing an idea or a belief with someone that is new to them.

Like connecting minds or hearts. I let my mind imagine teaching a child in particular and think about how you see the light of understanding appear.

What are the signs...head nodding, smiling, taking on the learning themselves. So like a candle, I felt kind of amazed. Yes, just like the small signs of the unlit candle taking on flame. The child or person, whoever you are talking to or teaching, shows small signs of taking in what you extend, the light begins to show. Then they take on the flame themselves, the signs of a separate light, they repeat, or take on the activity.  They start to tie their own shoe, or say “yeah I know what you mean.” Of course in yoga class we see this and do this all the time.
 
As I moved from candle to candle I noticed that once lit, when I removed the lighter, the flame diminished and flickered a bit as it took hold. This was especially true for the new candles that had never been lit before. The ones whose wick was used a bit took the flame quickly. But did I need to take the lighter back to these candles?

No, we know we don't. At least not right away. This also seems like human connection to me. Where we had connected with light before, the light takes again quickly. Where we are setting the flame for the first time it takes a moment, and it is natural that when left to itself, unsupported the new light diminishes a bit as it builds on its own. But give it a few seconds, and it will. 
 
Also, just like teaching and learning, the child or student left on their own wavers in their new skill or thinking, leave them to find their own resources or strength, their own oxygen, and their flame will burn bright as well. But you must watch, because if the flame dies, it will need to be lit again. 
 
And there are all kinds of candles, right?

Sometimes the candle is burned way down in its container and you have to turn it on its side and reach your light far inside to get it to light…some people are like this. If you are outside or face a breeze or other disturbing forces, you have to protect the light with your hand to transfer it from one to another.

So interesting…makes me think about how we transfer our light from one to another. And how and whether we remain to let the flame grow or light it again.
 
But what about me? Who lights my flame? If my light diminishes or burns out, do I have someone watching who can relight the flame? Am I doing the same for others? Holding light available, watching with patience, but still nearby, available to offer light again, but trusting others to shine with their own flame.
 
And what about the cardinal candle rule…never leave unattended! Do we do that to each other? Are we watching? Are we present? Is someone attending us…are we attending ourselves?

Maybe this is a good simple life rule...Light with Care and never leave unattended. 

What do you think?  Please share below in the comment sections so we can all learn from each other.

Namaste,

Leslie

Gifts to Give

We all give many gifts to this world big and small.

When we give our gifts freely and honestly we are being true to ourselves.

When we hold back our gifts because of insecurity, doubt, shame, or any other reason….
 We die a little on the inside.

Gifts we give can make our light glow brighter.

When that happens and others truly see us in that light, we give others the courage to be bright and shiny as well.

It also gives us the energy to keep giving.

On the other hand, we have to be open to receive gifts from others as well.

When we receive gifts, it also refuels us while kindling that light in others.

Do you need practice in one or both of these areas?

I think sometimes we might be very one sided…giving too much and not being open to receiving. Or taking too much and not giving all that we have to give.

Finding that balance helps to create balance with others and within ourselves.

What area do you need to focus on? Giving? Receiving? Both?
How will you do it?

Share your comments below so we can all learn from each other…

Yours in giving and receiving,

Denise

During my last retreat. I spent some time at this Labyrinth to be quiet and think.  Creativity and wisdom come to us in moments of silence and pause.  We feel lost sometime, we feel overwhelmed and out of control, we feel like there is just too much to do...but when we pause, just pause, something magical happens.  I encourage you to pause to fins the wisdom inside of you!


You can’t get lost in a Labyrinth.
There is a way out. 
You need to stay the course
and walk YOUR path.
The twists and turns happen,
but do not despair. 
You are strong on your two feet. 
You may see others on the way.
Breathe deep and trust.  
There is a beginning, middle, and end.
No matter where you are
keep putting one foot in front of the other. 
Thoughts will come and go.
Breathe and feel into your body.
You are connected with earth and sky,
and flesh and blood. 
You are powerful and strong beyond your imagination.
Just put one foot in front of the other.
Breathe. 
Be light and you will find your way.


Just reading the writing above.  How did it make you feel?  Anything resonate with you? Please share below so we can all learn from each other.

Warmly,

Denise

The research says YES! Our students and teachers wholeheartedly agree.
  
Restorative yoga—a gentle, passive style of yoga—invites you to drop into your vast, wise, peaceful, creative self. Scientifically speaking, it gives your nervous system a chance to shift into the parasympathetic state—also known as the healing state.
 
When you take time to rest in your self, in this state, it feels rejuvenating AND the benefits are often surprising, powerful, and consistent. We hear people say things like:
   
 Everything just seems easier for a few days after class.
 
I hadn't felt that relaxed since I can remember. It was like I'd spent a day at the spa!
 
After class, I slept peacefully through the night for the first time in weeks.
 
I noticed I was much less anxious and more confident at work.
 
My back feels so much better!
 
How does it work?
 
Your body experiences soft support from props—blankets, blocks and bolsters—while your mind receives support through the graceful guidance of the teacher. Together this creates the perfect recipe for relaxation and rejuvenation.
 
What if you have a hard time relaxing?
 
Having taught hundreds of students, I find that with skilled teaching like we have at Balanced for Life most people drop into relaxation relatively quickly. Some, like me, are exceptions. While it's getting easier with practice, really relaxing has long been a challenge for me.
 
If I can remember to make space for what is, even when it’s uncomfortable and far from what I think “should” be happening, I soften a bit. The breath starts to open up of it’s own accord.

Yet Restorative Yoga is life changing for me too. I attended Narayani's beautiful class this past Saturday. My mind had a hard time settling. I heard the steady breathing—snoring at times—of the lovely student to my right. My own breath felt shallow, uneven.
 
Of course my first reaction is to judge—I should be breathing more fully, I’m a yoga teacher for crying out loud! So then the next instinct is to try to change my breathing, to make it more like what I think it “should” be.
 
If I can remember to make space for what is, even when it’s uncomfortable and far from what I think “should” be happening, I soften a bit. The breath starts to open up of it’s own accord.
 
I find myself glimpsing peace in moments. And even though I didn’t drift away to dimensions unknown in our lovely extended Savasana, I felt slower, more grounded when I got up at the end of class. My body, tight from cycling, felt looser and more graceful.
 
The cloud of funk and gunk that seemed to be hanging over me all morning had mysteriously disappeared, and I drove away from the studio feeling uplifted and grateful.

Whatever you’re looking for, it’s closer than you think. And chances are, restorative yoga can remind you of this truth as it invites you home to your self.
 
You are brilliant.
 
I believe, and yoga teaches, that you are brilliant in all of your human ways of seeing and being and experiencing this life. And always lying just beneath the surface of your experience waits an infinitely wise, peaceful, magnificent self.
 
Restorative yoga is a powerful, delicious way to learn to hold the space for yourself exactly where and as you are, while also opening doorways into other dimensions that life within.
We are blessed to have a number of skilled and gifted Restorative Yoga teachers at Balanced for Life, each bringing her own unique skills and gifts.
 
Whatever you’re looking for, it’s closer than you think. And chances are, restorative yoga can remind you of this truth as it invites you home to your self.
 
Hope to see you soon.

-Jen

If it’s not a Hell Yes, then it’s a no.

For about the last year this theme has been coming back to me.  Do you guys ever get the same message over and over?  My guess is yes.  And maybe finally I am ready to listen.   I am posting this phrase everywhere.  In my journal, by my desk, on post-it’s around the house.  Why?  Because it’s time to receive this message and start to live it.

I have made the same mistakes over and over this past year.

Not listening to my intuition when it was whispering
“excuse me um, sorry to disturb you but I don’t think this for you”.

We shut that voice down.  It gets smaller and meeker.    We rationalize, we try to be the good person, we look outside ourselves for answers, but we know that the answers are not there.  How do you get to the point to really listen to that inner voice?

You may have pushed that voice away so many times that now you can barely hear it.  Now my voice is starting to scream in my face/head.

“I told you so, just listen to me!!!!” 

We all know deep down inside what is and isn’t for us.
How do you get to the point to really listen to that inner voice?  The one true voice that we all can trust and believe in completely!

It all comes back to practice.  Yes I know I am a broken record here, but it’s true.  The more we practice listening to that voice, the stronger and louder it will become.  There will be lots of mistakes along the way.  We will get distracted and look outside of ourselves.  For some it might take lots and lots of mistakes, maybe even the same ones that happen over and over and over again (you know who you are).  For others, they might get that a-ha a lot sooner.  

But to get to the practicing part, we first have to notice.  It’s hard to get to that point at all, especially with the busyness of the world and our lives.  If we don’t take the time to notice, you’ll never get to the practice.  This is hard stuff.  I struggle with this all the time.   So that stopping, either through yoga, meditation, or other mindfulness practices helps us to make and take the time to listen and feel and be present which in turn fosters awareness.

So here I am telling you I am far from perfect to listening to my inner voice, but I recognize and realize that this is something I want and need to change, so I will practice and post notes all around the house to remind myself of how important I am and that I can trust myself!

How will you practice listening to your voice? Let us know in the comments below, so we can all learn from each other.

Warmly,

Denise

The photo above is of a tree which I stumbled upon while on a walk in San Diego. There was no way of knowing that I would find myself in the presence of such a picturesque landmark. And yet, there was undoubtedly something which led me to her. Something which I believe to be bigger than anything worldly. Call that something what you will - God, Source, Universe … the name with which you align is not what’s important to me. What was important in that moment was noticing the message which I was to receive upon divinely landing in its presence.
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Having left PA on June 15th, my journey thus far has had no shortages of ups and downs. As many of you know, I have been actively calling more travel into my life. I consciously created space from the normalcy of my day-to-day existence in which to manifest a month of learning, exploration, and growth.

The plan was loosely defined. I would spend one week in Sedona, then one week in San Diego, followed by about a week of wiggle room to roam as guided by my heart before ultimately landing in Big Sur prior to my return home mid-July. What I forgot to plan for was the fact that actually surrendering to the concept of flowing with the unfolding of said series of events would prove to stretch me hugely outside of my innately Type A (FYI: west coasters seem to believe this to be a deep seeded neuroses instilled among us east coasters) comfort zone.

Intellectually, I acknowledge and accept the fact that it is only through stretching one’s comfort zone that growth can be experienced. In fact, I believe this to be why I have taken to traveling more of late. And yet, to date, this has not proven to make it any easier. So yes, it’s true, even the yogi/meditation instructor struggles with the concept of fully releasing control and going with the flow.

Use your imagination, if you would, now to consider how it might prove to be interesting for a planner such as myself to share space with an individual whose daily mantra is committed to the word flow. Enter into the equation my dear friend and fellow healer, Heather Fleming of consciousnutrition.com It is thanks to Heather that I have a safe place to call home-base during my stay in San Diego. Heather seemed to catch on pretty quickly to the fact that I was struggling a bit with the concept of truly surrendering to the concept of flowing. One morning as she observed me moving through my Ayurvedic AM practices, Heather casually commented “Wow! You have quite the morning routine. Does that help to (brief pause) ground you?” Whether she realized it or not, Heather was totally calling my bluff. I was simply moving through the motions of my morning practice.

I allowed this to go on for maybe a day or two more before I found myself lacing up my sneaks to set out for some me time. To check out to check in. To move some energy. To simply get lost – which I actually did at first – in nature. To trust physically stepping well outside of my comfort zone. To notice what that brought up. And, to surrender to feeling that experience.

Stumbling upon this tree provided me with a wonderful reality check. What beauty and wisdom she had to offer! Tucked – seemingly –  in the middle of nowhere. But, no more than a few blocks from Heather’s home. As I sat in silence in the presence of this tree, I surrendered to that something which is bigger than anything worldly. I asked for support in navigating through the next few weeks. To trusting the unfolding of my journey. As if my prayer had been instantaneously answered, I was granted the gift of an incredibly supportive phone conversation with a dear friend whom I’d been missing from home. 

After hanging up, I sat for a few moments longer continuing to enjoy this sacred space. I drew in a very deep breath - the deepest breath I believe that I’d taken throughout my entire trip thus far. Breath, or prana, literally translates to life force. In that moment, I visualized myself breathing in life and all that it had to offer. I knew whole-heartedly that I was ready to embark upon the remainder of my journey from a different perspective. With the agenda of dropping the plan. With the agenda of surrendering to flow …

As you now gaze at the image of this beautifully wise tree, I challenge you to ask yourself how/what supports you in surrendering to flowing from one moment to the next amidst the chaos of this life? Maybe it’s a walk outdoors. Maybe it’s time spent on your yoga mat. Maybe it’s prayer/meditation to whatever higher presence aligns with your belief system. Maybe it’s a cup of tea and a heartfelt talk with a loved one. Whatever the approach, my hope is that you may be inspired by my faltering to commit, or perhaps to re-commit, to embrace your practice(s) of choice! I implore you to try stepping outside of your comfort zone - to take the time to slow down, to notice, to feel, and to surrender to the flow of life.
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Humbly,
Josette

Recently I found myself wondering . . . what kind of teacher am I? And despite being prone to just this type of self-analysis I couldn’t find an answer. I began reflecting on the teachers I have had who have had the biggest impact on me. Who have been the best teachers for me?

Of course, my Yoga Teacher has been my most recent Best Teacher. But further back, three people come to mind. It’s amazing that from years of schooling, just a few really stand out.
One was an undergrad teacher, a true old-fashioned English professor, down to the tweed jacket. And he was hard; most students avoided him. I didn’t even really like his specialty area that much, 18th century English poets. But he was good. He stands out because he had high expectations and didn’t “suffer fools gladly,” which is probably why most students didn’t like him. He sent us on tedious jaunts into the (pre Internet!) library to hone our research skills and gave long reading and writing assignments, expecting accuracy and wit. If you got a good grade from him, you felt like you had accomplished something. I remember feeling weary from his classes, but I’ve always looked back and been proud of the work I did for him. He believed we were capable of top-notch work, and he showed us how to do it.

The second person that came to mind was also a literature professor, but a very different one. This woman was a passionate feminist and brought her mindset into her classes by introducing writers outside the canon. She was much more than a teacher to me; she was a mentor and guide. She was unassuming—but passionate—about her philosophical views, but also about education. She was one of the few professors experimenting with how she taught and how students interacted to deepen the learning process. It was in her blood to be enriching her own learning, and she was passionate about creating similar experiences for her students. She was a role model for challenge, but also risk.

The final “teacher” who came into my mind is my maternal Grandmother. With the simple act of holding me and saying “I love you.” My grandmother made sure I knew I was loved, that she loved me, no matter what. The fact of her love has remained powerful and continues to nourish my heart; I can still feel the impact of her “I love you’s.”

What good touchstones. So for me, “good teacher” means someone who believes in my potential, shares her passion in creative ways, and loves.

They were imperfect; so am I. But that’s not what I remember. What has lasted is the way each of these 3 people put themselves forward, made sure that their voice was not just heard, but felt.

Really the question isn’t what am I, but what am I trying to be? Not simply as a teacher, but as me. Who has shaped your path? Who helps you see the kind of person you want to be?

Namaste!
Leslie

3:39AM … that is when I awoke – wide awake – on this blessed April 1st … April Fool’s Day … despite having nodded off only a few hours prior! The phrase which greeted me at this opportune hour was “Take responsibility, Josette.” In my restlessness, I began to consider how I might embody that statement, placing my trust wholeheartedly in the fact that it must have intuitively found me at this obscene hour for some reason. And so I was led to ponder… Responsibility for my thoughts; responsibility for my actions; and responsibility for my words.

In choosing to embrace this as an opportunity to reflect in a manner which tends to serve me best, I’ve turned to writing. Writing with the intention of sharing. For, I am striving to embrace the fact that I have valuable knowledge and insight to share.

I am aware of the fact that sharing in such a manner is an admittedly vulnerable endeavor.  I am also aware of the fact that this is simply an opportunity for growth; an opportunity to establish and nurture new neural pathways. Furthermore, in choosing to use such “I statements” through my thoughts, my words, and my actions, I am aware of the fact that I am embracing a Gestalt based approach of existence.

This is something which I embodied throughout my time spent at The Esalen Institute. I’d brainstormed that the reflective blog which I might draft to share publicly of my time away could be entitled checking out to check in. And yet, throwing my plan out the window in an effort to trust what feels right in this moment is precisely in accordance with that which I’ve learned to embrace during my time away. And so, in the wee hours of this AM … on this joyous April 1st … I feel this to be a ridiculously fortuitous time to reflect. So, here goes nothing …

I’ve been home one week now to date and re-integration has been nothing short of a whirlwind. It seems my body still has NO idea upon what coast I am currently residing. Each night as I lay my head upon my pillow with the intention of a full night’s rest, unfortunately I wake after a few short hours. Some nights 5 – 6 hours of shut eye, though last night only 3 – 4, having obtained what one might consider a respectable nap, but certainly NOT a full night’s rest. And yet, somehow, someway, I have been incredibly productive. I have sincerely enjoyed re-connecting with many of my family, friends, and clients. I feel abundantly grateful for these connections, and even more grateful for the resilience of my body.

I’ve come to learn, in short, that the body is miraculous. And, with regards to my body in particular, I have come to acknowledge and accept the fact that it has been through a heck of a lot! I would be remiss in neglecting to admit that some of that which I’ve been challenged to overcome has been admittedly self-induced.

In removing myself from “normal life,” as I’ve seemingly known it, to reside in the remoteness of community based living at the fairy-tale existence of reality which I grew to know and love at The Esalen Institute- shout out to the gods/goddess which I’ve left behind – I was provided with what proved to be a fabulous opportunity to learn that which truly enables me to function well. And what I learned is that absolutely no one is control of  me but me.

What enables me to function optimally is likely quite different than what enables you to function optimally. The beauty, and opportunity for application, of this realization is that each one of us has been given our own unique body, our vessel, through which to navigate this life. While this seems to be common sense, I found it to be a profound realization. I’ve learned that I can choose to embrace this by taking responsibility for myself fully, by consciously choosing to conduct my thoughts, my actions, and my words, in a manner which will truly honor that which serves me best … or not. At the end of the day, no one but is in control of this but ME!

And so I challenge you now to take a look at your life. How have you been showing up (or not) for you? How might you optimally honor that which serves your greater good? I challenge you to consider the following … have you been taking responsibility for your thoughts, for your actions, and for your words in a manner which can and will optimally serve your greater good?

Perhaps you too might look to this April 1st … this April Fool’s Day … as not a day for foolery, but rather, as a day of opportunity. As the saying goes, “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.” Through an embracing of a Gestalt based existence, I vow publicly to truly take responsibility! In the month ahead, I elect to embody this phrase. I choose to take responsibility ... for my thoughts … for my actions … and for my words. I choose April as a month of Awareness; to honor that which will serve me optimally. I offer you the opportunity to join me!!!!

With A Wide Open Heart,
Josette

Literally I have no voice.  I have been fighting some weird head cold sore throat thing all week.  And now I cannot talk.  I’m sitting at home alone and am quiet.  Now normally I don’t talk to myself when I am home alone and you would think that this would be no big deal, but the fact that I have no voice whatsoever make it feel even more quite in my mind because  I know I can’t speak even if I wanted to.

Trust me I usually have plenty to say.  And this year was my time to listen more and talk less.  Now I am maybe regretting that I said that all to you in an early post (feel free to go back and read that one from 10/28/15). 

This week I have had to put into place everything that I was working on and thinking about doing this year: asking for help more, accepting help when it is offered to me, speaking less,  listening more, speaking my truth, holding a space for others to do the same, and the big one for me-working on boundaries. 

It’s one thing to think about or talk about all the things you want to work on in your life.  It’s a completely other thing to actually do it!   This week alone I have had to do all those things and let me tell you even though I cannot speak, it has been so difficult to surrender to the reality and actually just accept those facts.

I am realizing how lucky I am that I can normally speak freely.  Not everyone can.  I am so grateful for my voice and have been neglecting what that means for me.  To speak your truth is the only way to live.  Speaking truth can be scary.  It’s all about showing your true self to the world and who knows how the world will react to you.  Maybe it’s even scarier for us to deny ourselves the ability to be true to who we really are. 

This has been an uncomfortable week for me.  Both physically and emotionally, but it’s ok. I say that all the time in yoga class.  It’s Ok to be uncomfortable.  In the moments when we hang in with the discomfort on our yoga mats or in our life, we are giving ourselves the opportunity to expand our minds, reach new heights, and learn something new. 

I have a new appreciation for my voice and plan to use it wisely when it returns.

What have you been talking about but need to take action on?  What has been making you uncomfortable lately? How will you grow?

Be well and feel free to share your thought below!

Namaste,
Denise

As we face the new-ness of the start of a calendar year, I’ve been finding myself feeling rather disenchanted by the rah rah rah which enters into the vocabulary of so many in January. I am not typically someone who makes New Year’s Resolutions. In fact, I find the conventional approach to grandiose celebration around NYE to be somewhat confusing. And, to each his own.

At some point about mid-December, I was asked directly “Have you placed any thought towards your 2016 New Year’s Resolution yet?” I find many of the common suspects – a renewed commitment to eat healthfully, to exercise with regularity, to get enough rest etc – to be aspects of self-care which I strive to maintain throughout the calendar year. This is not to say that I honor that notion optimally 365 days/year. As humans we all falter; therein lies the phrase human nature.

And yet, I am aware of the fact that being asked to consider a New Year’s Resolution provided me with a lovely opportunity to reflect upon how I might consider shifting my day-to-day such that it would be conducive to my overall well-being. Doing so lent itself nicely to a practice which I have exercised on NYE for the past three years. After being gifted a Gratitude Jar for Christmas, I began the practice of jotting down simple things for which I am grateful. I document not only positive experiences, but also challenging lessons learned. On December 31st, I read each and every slip of paper which has made its way into my jar for the year.  Reflecting in this manner affords me the opportunity to notice trends having occurred throughout the past calendar year. People, places, and things by which I was moved – good, bad, or indifferently. I take it for what it’s worth. And, I make note of these trends. People, places, or things which consistently show up are good information.

Through this practice I gain an awareness of concepts which I may have lost sight of that feel beneficial to revisit. Additionally, I am provided with an opportunity to consider how might I do things differently! I recently attended a master’s yoga class with my teacher, Sherry Sidoti, in which she approached the entire class from this perspective. “Raise your leg, but maybe not quite as high as you usually would; step forward, but maybe a little bit to the right/left of your typical foot placement; sweep your arms to the sky, but if you always do so rigidly perhaps notice this time how/where you might soften.” Sherry taught that the yoga mat is safe place in which to practice doing things differently. To rise above our samskaras (Sanskrit), or habitual patterns. This is so very true, and yet, this does not make it any easier.

Reflection and introspection have led me to the following truth: Human nature is a pesky little concept which consistently tempts me to move through life conducting my decisions based upon how things should be done, rather than always honoring what feels innately right. Even if it’s different than how I normally would. Maybe even a little uncomfortable. In choosing to step outside of the comfort zone, one consciously enters into the realm of endless potential. I challenge you to consider how you might do so for yourself in 2016 – both on and off of your yoga mat! Then trust, breathe, and revel at the growth as it unfolds. 

Humbly,
​Josette

I love looking back and reflecting on what happened in the past year and where I want to focus on the next. Granted you don't need the New Year to do this.  You can reflect and change things up just about any day.  Maybe your birthday could be the trigger or maybe some other event.
 
It's best to pick the time of year that speaks to you.  
 
"If you don't know where you are going, you will go where the wind takes you." is one of my favorite quotes.
 
To me, this means you have to plan the life you want to live.  Granted planning and getting exactly what you want are 2 different things.  By having a plan, you decide what is important to you.  I think that is the key.  First of all, we have to know what is important to us and then how do you design your life to include that. Always remember what is important to us is constantly changing.  This is why it is best to reevaluate and do so often.
 
If relationships are important to you, then you need to plan and schedule time with those people you love.  If you don’t, you’ll be “too busy” with all the other “stuff” that gets in the way and you might find yourself feeling disconnected.
 
If having fun is important, figure out what it is that makes you happy and go do it without guilt!
 
If your work is important, make the goals, do what you can to put things in motion. Don't worry about the tedious stuff, do the things that matter and will move you forward, then be patient and open to the things that come your way.
 
Only you can make your life the way you want it to be.  So if there is something you were not happy with last year.  Make a change, go out on a limb, be ready to fail and get off course, try a different path to explore.  Maybe you will find another destination to explore that you didn’t expect to want to before you went on the journey and maybe that will change the goals you had in the first place.
 
What are your goals this year?  What path do you want to start your journey on?  Please share in the comments below!

Warmly,

Denise