Rest and sleep are 2 separate and distinct things to consider and think about for improved health.
Sleep is important to reset your body and mind. Sleep might come more easily if you have a consistent routine.
Sleep helps you to:
What does rest look like?
For example, you might need a hard cut off for turning off the TV or for the dreaded scroll on your phone. By limiting the input in the evening, you prevent overstimulation, when you need to get some zzzz. If you don’t have the willpower to do this yourself, schedule the cut off using sleep (on iPhone), set an alarm, or have someone you live with give your reminders.
I have a reminder on my phone that says bedtime routine at 9:30 pm. Yes! I get ready that early for bed. Sleep is one thing that is non-negotiable for me.
Or you might need to say NO to some of your to-do’s. If you are feeling exhausted. Your body and mind need more rest. Don’t you agree that when you are exhausted and continue to run, the number of careless accidents you have significantly increases. For example, you might twist an ankle, slip down the stairs, or spill something, or break something, or any other example.
Although there are circumstances in which guilt and outside pressure of not wanting to let someone else down can significantly affect our ability to do those things we need to do to take care of ourselves in this way.
I beg you to pay attention to these 2 issues in your life. I feel like these things can lead to chronic stress. Chronic stress that you get used to and eventually your body just starts to break down. It can’t take it anymore.
My recommendation is to address one of the two and see how you feel???
I want you to really evaluate the results. This is a practice and won’t happen overnight especially if you have been ignoring your needs for years. But it can get better. It might take a little time and persistence. And the pay off? You will start feeling better.
Yoga, deep breathing, deep relaxation, meditation, and self-care can help you to be more mindful and pay more attention and perhaps change the way you think about rest and sleep.
I hope this helps. Feel free to leave a comment below or ask me any questions when you see me!
Peaceful Dreams! And Rest Easy!
3 Tips to Curb the Chaos in your schedule
Anyone else living on fast Forward? I can't believe it's the end of January already! Can you? So when I sent out my survey in December to ask what is holding you back from being the healthiest version of you the majority of you said:
Having No TIME and YOUR SCHEDULE being out of control.
What to do about that?
Schedule less...I know this sounds like a crazy impossible feat that can't happen, but you can do it. Try these 3 tips to keep your week manageable.
1) Just say no! You will have to say no to fun things as well as things you really do not want to commit to at this time. For example, if a friend asks you to coffee and your week is already crazy, you can schedule it for another week in the future. You will be calmer and enjoy yourself more if you aren't running from one thing to the next.
2) Start your mornings slow. I do this just about every day. This will help you to set the tone of your day even if your schedule seems a little crazy. What's my slow start look like? Wake up usually without an alarm between 6-7 am, drink a small glass of water (for an internal shower) while making my pour over coffee, sit and drink said coffee quietly while petting my dogs, then write 3 pages of whatever comes into my head. This is the minimum morning routine that has been happening every day for a while now. It may expand if I have more time. And I will get up a little earlier if I have a morning meeting to fit it in. When that is complete, I continue with the rest of my day... eat, shower, get dressed ect...
3) Create a Model Calendar. You might have heard about this concept if you are a business owner, but it helps for life stuff too. You put in the things that are most important to you first in your calendar. This could be things that make you healthy like workouts, walks, yoga class, and your bedtime. Dinners with your family, time off, and then see what time you have left for all the rest of the things you have to or want to do. Maybe striving to do a little less. Work will always expand into the time you allow and there are always chores to do. (This is constantly evolving for me and don't be surprised if it does the same for you, but paying attention to your calendar this way does help to control it and see where your weaknesses are. I mean what you will bend your rules for even when you don't really want to!
I hope this give you a couple of things to think about as you look at your week. Maybe you can make some adjustments in the weeks ahead to your schedule using these tips.
Let me know if you give it a go.
It’s been a bumpy start to my New Year. I was lucky enough to get sick. I know many of you or your loved ones were/are also sick over the Christmas holiday and now into the New Year.
(Co-vid, Flu, Colds, sore throats, RSV, and many other ailments are running amuck.) And I want you to know you are not alone. Aren’t we done with all this yet?
I ended up having a viral pink eye. This is no ordinary pink eye I have ever experienced. It came on suddenly like a hot poker to my right eyeball waking me up out of a deep sleep. It was quite disconcerting. I had a restless night to say the least. Apparently, you can get a mild case or a severe case that affects your vision. I had the later.
A trip to the minute clinic ended in a prescription for antibiotics for a possible sinus infection and eye drops. I thought that was great, I'll feel better tomorrow. Pinkeye no big deal.
Two days later no improvement with my vision getting worse. It was very scary. I could not read my phone, watch tv, be in bright light, drive my car, or keep my eyes open for any length of time. So, I basically could do nothing that I could usually enjoy or at least keep me distracted when I am normally home sick.
A visit to the eye doctor and new drops, slowly started to improve the pain and redness. The whites of my eyes were blood red. Cue the vampire movie montage. But it took another 3 days for my eyes to get clearer and clearer. There was a point in the car when my husband was driving me so I could get to the studio and check something out, and I just burst into tears. He said, “what’s wrong?" People get sick.
A-HA. Yes! We do! And isn't that just a fact. This hit me and was exactly what I needed to hear to put things into perspective.
I was just frustrated and feeling helpless.
No one wants to get sick or see a friend or family member sick. But we are human, and sickness happens. Never when you are ready for it.
In my mind, I was worried about how behind I was from these days of total stillness. Or doing nothing. The most nothing ever! I can't even remember the last time I had so many days of nothing in a row.
All the worries came rushing in! New Years has traditionally been a fresh start for me. I enjoy it very much. That was ruined by this sickness.
There is an awful lot of internal pressure we put on ourselves. All the plans, work, stuff I needed to be accomplished will still be there for me to get back to no matter how long it may take.
This is all in our minds. This feeling of getting behind, not being able to keep up, or not being able to take time to take care of ourselves.
We have to change our thinking. Because it’s not true.
This is a story we tell ourselves. SO many of our stories are harmful to our well-being. What story are you telling yourself about something that is going on with you right now?
This week I’m probably going to have to take things slowly. I am going to accept that. It just is. My eyes are way better but not yet 100% and sometimes injuries and illness take time to recover from. We don’t get to choose how much time it takes.
Attitude, Mindset, Self-Talk, asking for help all contribute to us recovering.
Practicing yoga, meditation, self-care, and mindfulness gives us the resilience to handle these situations when they present themselves.
By getting into a habit of exploring and practicing these habits regularly, we fill ourselves up to be ready for the challenges that will come in life no matter how they present in our lives.
Be well and take care of you! Let me know how you are doing in the comments below. What do you do to help you get through a difficult time?
Have you ever been motoring along in your life, but had a little nagging feeling in the back of your head that was urging you to slow down? You might even realize a break is in order? You make plans in a few weeks to take a day off or 2. But it’s too late.
Bam! All of a sudden you feel like you have been hit with a sack of bricks.
That vacation in a few weeks seems so far away. How are you going to survive the next few weeks until it arrives? That is exhaustion and boy can that (fill in the blank) sneak up on you.
I was having that nagging feeling a couple of weeks ago and now the exhaustion is real. Luckily, I had decided to take a little break. Even the most mindful of us all can run into this scenario.
How can you prevent this from happening in your life? Here are a few suggestions.
I am taking next Wednesday to Sunday off for Spring break and I’m not traveling anywhere. It’s ok to take off and stay home. Not set the alarm and reconnect and rest however works for you. I am going to learn how to make chocolate covered cherries, maybe take a trip to ground for sculpture, and generally give myself time to rest. There is a lot of white space on my calendar, and it will stay that way. Determining what I need each hour is a good way for me to recharge.
I am just like you. This is an ongoing practice for me. I recognized I needed the break but just a tad too late. Now I will do what I need to recharge. I will watch my schedule. I will say no. I will use my boundaries. When I feel my best, I can be a better teacher, body worker, mother, and all the other things I need to be in my life.
And you can too…so listen closely and pay close attention to your schedule. Remember our emotional and physical activities contribute to this exhaustion. If you have been worried or anxious or dealing with any other situation that has your nervous system on alert, even with a “light” schedule, you can become exhausted.
Be well, watch out for the sneaky (fill in the blank). And let me know how I can support you.
P.S. I edited this post to allow for the fill in your blank after a discussion with a close friend. I had my own word and there can be many here such as bugger, devil, clown, ect. ect. and some ones that need #$#%* to fill in the blank. If you see me, you can ask me what mine was and also you can share what yours is.
I have decided that it’s NOT YET the New Year in my eyes. Recently things have been feeling more like same old same old. My holidays like many of yours was marked with a family member getting this new variant of Covid. And so things didn’t go quite as planned….again.
It’s tiring for sure. My son is virtual again for school. I have decided to pull back from going to restaurants and other group things again. I am not afraid of this variant and getting sick, but I do not want the inconvenience of being stuck in the house for 5 days or more if I am in close contact with someone.
I want to be working and out and about in other ways even if I am choosing not to do somethings again.
AND I have hope. Hope that things will be changing again soon. Like they always do. Hang in there. The only constant is change. You can still meet up with a trusted friend to get connection, to talk about our feelings and struggles, and feel support.
You are not alone.
So getting back to the New Year. I believe at any time we can celebrate the New Year. And that’s what I plan to do when it feels right to me. MAYBE the end of the month. Maybe tomorrow. Every day can be the start of a New Year. And then again and again, over and over, start again.
Instead of struggling again that feeling of not quite being the New Year, go with it! Decide when it feel like the right time to start over or begin again.
Let me know when your New Year is going to be!
Maybe we can celebrate together!
If you have been following my business journey as a yoga professional, you might know which of these was the actual first logo I choose when I started out 19 years ago. Wanna guess?
It was the 3rd one down. My business has evolved and changed over the years. I started out just teaching kids with special needs to just kids to adults to just about anyone.
The pandemic has made things change and evolve even more. And now I’m mostly just operating under Balanced for Life Yoga/Yoga Therapy.
I have been consolidating. Having 2 websites and 2 newsletter lists and 2 of everything has just been too much the last couple of years. It’s time for me to let go of the All Kids Yoga aspect of my business. Does it mean I won’t work with kids anymore? No not at all. I will continue to work with kids one on one or perhaps in a group setting in the studio if there is a demand for that. But I just don’t need to manage 2 different businesses anymore.
This original logo work is probably going to burn before the new year in a ritual of letting go of the past and just focusing on the the now and future.
If you go to www,allkidsyoga.com you will be redirected to Balanced for Life Website. And that’s it. I feel grateful to all that work I put into All Kids Yoga Yoga and how it got me to now, and all it meant to me in the past, but now it’s time to let that go.
It was such a part of me and I feel good about saying goodbye. I have disposed of all those All Kids Yoga business cards. I don’t anticipate doing any more school classes off sight at the moment. There is a melancholy and sweet remembering of that time but it’s almost been 2 years of feeling divided.
I like being in one place. I don’t miss the rushing around. I want to focus on one thing. Time to accept what is now and what isn’t anymore.
Do you have anything in your life that you need to say goodbye to? December is a perfect time to do it. Let me know what it is, we can chat about how it’s going for you.
Be well and good bye All Kids Yoga.
Uncharacteristically quiet is how I would characterize my life since the pandemic started. It’s a little strange to me that I have not been writing more. My last blog post was in July 2020. This is kind of unheard of for me. But I, like some of you, have been in a more contemplative place these past 10 months.
Now that it’s the new year, nothing much has changed. Uneventfulness has become a comforting feeling. The things that would normally occupy my time have changed significantly.
In the past, my go to strategies for keeping busy have fallen to the wayside: blogging and writing, reading, or collaborating with other yoga teachers. Why? I keep wondering.
think it’s the fact that my attention span has changed. I don’t have the bandwidth or energy level that I normally would to categorize, focus, and prioritize prior to pandemic, and political and racial unrest. AND I HAVE TO BE OK WITH IT.
Easier said than done though. I have noticed that little judging voice of mine coming out with statements like “You only finished one book in the last 10 months. What’s wrong with you?” Or “you should be blogging more”. Or “why can’t you follow through and get stuff done?”
When I look back though, I have done plenty of things this past year. And I am sure you have as well if you look closely. I focused more on my personal impact on the environment and have changed how and what I purchased to create less waste. I have created an online library of over 120 yoga classes. I started teaching Pilates chair lessons to students on an individual basis. I have adapted in ways I never thought were possible this past year with work, home life, and leisure activities. And you probably have as well. My focus has been on simplifying, using and buying only what I need, and enjoying and celebrating everyday mundane activities that make up our life.
How many rituals or routine have you had to change this year? For me, re-evaluating my end of year ritual was a big one.
In December/early January, I usually look through my calendar month by month and write down anything significant that happened. I put all the information on one page so I can see what the past year looked like. Most of the usual things that would be on there: like trips, or continuing education classes, or other accomplishments, were absent. There was a whole lot of white space on that sheet of paper.
So instead, I had to change my thinking and considering all the things that have been restricted in my work and personal life that I do not miss. By compiling a list of those things, I can create a reminder of what I can permanently let go of. SO when things get back to “normal”, whatever that means now, I will consciously add in only the things that I missed the most and keep those things I didn’t miss or caused stress out for good.
After that I usually look back at the work and personal goals I had documented last January and determine if I achieved my goals and which ones are worth continuing and which ones should be let go.
Many goals I had hoped to achieve this year were left unfinished. Again having to feel ok about this fact was a practice. I had to recognize there is resistance and uneasiness about setting goals for myself this year, considering we are still full force with co-vid and the continued uncertainty of life (which is always there by the way).
I do love the concrete feeling of seeing a list of goals written down. My plan is to be more gentle with the process this year. I don't know when it will be completed. But still want to challenge myself to put something down on paper even if the opportunities for fulfilling them are not available. Goals always change and evolve anyway. This is not a static process. Those last couple of sentences are a good reminder to me.
What activities or things will you let go of forever moving forward? How are you doing with setting your goals for the new year? Have you been able to let go of your usual mark of progress or success in your life if Co-vid has interfered? Share in the comment section.
SO for now, look at me, I started writing again. I hope you continue to be well and find a way to thrive in this topsy-turvy world.
Life Changed and Changed and Changed…
The School District where I reside has released plans for the fall of 2020. And it’s depressing. Another loss. Even though we know the reality of the situation we are in, there has been no reprieve from any of it. A never ending string of disappointments without a chance of recovery. How do we navigate? I am not sure.
There is no room for blame or selfishness. It is a new reality. This is a new reality. One that needs to be navigated by all. There needs to be more compassion, not less. More living in someone else’s shoes, not less. There still might be a lot of grieving and for a long period of time. It just is. “Life as it is” is not always pretty. It’s not always easy.
I have been through hard times before, but this is by far the most difficult in my lifetime for me. Your experience may be different. And I would love to hear it. I am one who usually is hopeful but not so much this past week or so. My reserve is low. My capacity for hope has been diminished.
I recently read this excerpt from Becoming Wise An Inquiry into the Mystery and Art if Living by Krista Tippett. In the Chapter Titled Hope Reimagined, Krista writes “In a century of staggering open questions, hope becomes a calling for those of us who can hold it, for the sake of the world. Hope is distinct in my mind, from optimism and idealism. It has nothing to do with wishing. It references reality at every turn and reveres truth.” I feel like I have been that person in the past to hold onto hope, but do not have the strength in me right now to do so. This realization is also disappointing but real and true to me at the moment. But I ask you, can you be that person? Can you take a turn at holding the hope for those of us who can not in this moment? If the answer is yes! Do it and do it now! We need you.
Krista goes on to say “Hope, like every virtue is a choice that becomes a practice that becomes spiritual muscle memory, It’s a renewable resource for moving through life as it is, not as we wish it to be.” So my “hope muscle” is a bit atrophied at the moment.
Just like any muscle that becomes weak because of disuse or trauma. You need to work at rebuilding it. From my experience as a physical therapist, I can tell you that is not easy work. But it’s still worth rebuilding so you can regain full function and find ease again in your daily activities. So if your hope muscle memory is lacking from the trauma of Covid-19, I completely understand where you are coming from. It’s time to rebuild it and find a way back to a functional ease in our lives. It’s accepting the changes that happen over and over again. It’s asking another to take a turn holding hope when you can not.
For me writing this is one of my ways to work out that hope muscle again to reach those of you who might have felt this same way sometime in the last 5 months, who are feeling it now, and who might get to feel this way in the near future. Practice is never easy. Practice can be down right hard.
Glennon Doyle Writes in Untamed “If you are uncomfortable-in deep pain, angry, yearning, confused- you don’t have a problem, you have a life. Being human is not hard because you are doing it wrong, it’s hard because you’re doing it right. You will never change the fact that being human is hard, so you must change your idea that it was ever supposed to be easy in the first place.”
So my friends, welcome to being human in a new and unique environment for us. There are going to be a lot more changes headed our way. I do hope that we can process and digest and move along in a better way. Maybe me writing this right now is my way to start rebuilding that muscle. I hope so.
Be well and love to you all,
PS: Feel free to share below and thoughts or feelings on this post.
Isn't it true? It's hard to keep track of what day it is. When we don't change our environment, we don't have the cues that we are used to.
I'm teaching more days so that hasn't helped me remember which day is what. And I still don't know what "my schedule" is.
This calendar was a little gift from a student around Christmas. If you look closely at the cow, the word FAITH is printed underneath him.
I pretty much lost my faith last week and was in a deep dark hole for a couple of days. I couldn't stop sobbing one day. Of course, the anxiety and fear around the pandemic- the not knowing is difficult for everyone.
For those of you who this past month had been a "break" you should be very grateful. For those of you who have a job, be grateful. For those of you with health insurance, be grateful.
For my family, it's not been such a break. I've been hustling to get classes on the online schedule and to make the process as smooth as possible.
My husband doesn't have a job now and hasn't for 6 weeks and that's been stressful. 2/3 of my business is on hold because of the pandemic. I went to schools and did some amazing one on one hands on work with people in pain or for people who just wanted to stay healthy.
I really miss that work- I guess I can be grateful that now I know this is certainly true for me.
When my husband’s job ended so did our health insurance. In a time when you need health insurance, there is no way in my mind how we can go without. So, I struggled.
I struggled with the idea of not having enough money to pay my bills, I struggled with the fact that health insurance is really really expensive. For a family of 4 it's going to be pretty much a second mortgage payment.
So many questions! You might have your own version.
How long will my husband be out of work? Will my business survive this? Should I go back and get a full time Physical Therapy Job for the benefits? Will we have enough in our savings? Will I get the unemployment compensation? Will I have to dip into my retirement accounts? How long will we need to be at home? When will more answers come about this virus? ect. ect. ect.
Ugg! So many questions. AND NO ANSWERS.
I cried and I was angry and I wanted to scream about the system being broken. About my bad luck, about the state of the world. I needed to be miserable. At least for a few days. To feel the misery all the way down to the core of my being.
Then I accepted. I cannot change any of this. I am healthy right now and so is my family. I do have an emergency fund and money in retirement funds that we can use when and if we need it. I can go back and work in a hospital or nursing home or outpatient center when and if I need to.
I NEVER WANT TO FORGET HOW THIS FEELS!!!
I don't want to forget the misery and if you get there too, I can sit by you and be there as you experience it and give you strength to be in it. FULLY.
Because when this is over, there needs to be changes.
Change in our healthcare system
Change in how insurance works
Changes so people can have living wages
Changes in how we do things
Changes so people have housing they can afford
Changes to care about the environment
Changes that keep us connected and feeling on a deeper level
AND IT WILL ONLY CHANGE IF WE ALL REMEMBER WHAT WE ARE FEELING RIGHT NOW.
So feel those feelings, my friends, and know you and no one else knows the answers yet. And when you get through the other side, I hope we all can see things in a new light, a new way, find perspective.
I hope we all do.
Today was a day for tears: Tears of frustration, tears of gratitude, tears of joy.
On and off throughout the day they flowed, and it was good.
It was good to let them flow to release those feeling and be in the moment.
To force myself to take a deep breath.
To surrender to the now.
Now I want to cry so cry.
Now I want to scream so scream.
Now I want to rest and turn off the news and distract myself from reality so do that too.
Now it’s time to check in with someone and connect in a very different way than I am an accustomed to.
Today was a day for tears.
And tomorrow is a day for hope and love and being here now and being adaptable and flexible in my mind.
And being present in my body.
Keep thinking about now and now and now over, and over again
Is LIFE all up in your face at the moment? This was the title of this blog just last Saturday. But now I feel like it should read when the world has turned upside down.
Is LIFE all up in your face at the moment? This was the title of this blog just last Saturday. But now I feel like it should read when the world has turned upside down.
Someone recently asked me how I was doing? And this was my reply: “LIFE IS ALL UP IN MY FACE”. It’s in Caps because that how it feels to me. LIFE is unpredictable. There is so much out of our control and as human beings that all we want. We want to feel like we are in control. Sadly, we are not and can never control all the things we wish we could.
I don’t think I am the only one with LIFE ALL UP IN MY FACE EITHER. People are struggling. Struggling with fear (Coronavirus), sadness (a sick/or aging family member), despair (mental illness with seemingly no fast and easy treatment options), grief (for a relationship that isn’t going to take flight), uncertainty (job restructuring), anger and surprise (dog getting attacked), or physical pain (chronic illness). And I know there is many more situations that can be added to the list.
As human beings one thing does connect us and that is pain. We will always have pain in our lives not matter what you call it. (SEE ABOVE). In Yoga teachings, they say pain is inevitable, but suffering is not.
Pain (emotional, physical, or spiritual) is going to happen to us all at one point or another or even several points throughout our lifetime. We have to figure out how to relate to the pain, so we don’t suffer.
If you were already in PAIN or had anxiety and stress in your life before the whole Wednesday announcements of closures of everything, financial markets crashing, supermarket buy outs, then you have been doubly hit in this extremely stressful time.
We all have to do one thing right now and that first step is Acceptance.
This is happening and there is nothing you can do to change it. You can’t wish this or any pain you might be feeling away, but you can say “yes I see you and I accept this now”. Then from here that point of acceptance, we have choices.
We have been through similar tough times before and in my lifetime. We all came together after 9/11 and there were so many kind and helpful people during that time…we can be the same way now.
We have lived through market and financial hardships. And I know this might be causing a hardship for so many people who are self employed and don’t have paid time off this is going to hurt and its going to be scary.
We have all probably experience a bad sickness or injury or some other discomfort of body. We know what that is like and this is similar. Remember even if you get sick from this virus, most of us will be ok. We are now trying to protect those who are at their weakest health wise and we all should do our part.
Please remember all your feelings are valid. Feel them and try to let them go. Visualization can help you. Feel the knot in your chest or your stomach and imagine it unwinding. Or steam coming off as you release your breath. We can change how we feel in this moment.
Remove yourself from stimuli that negatively affect you- that can be news or negative people.
Get more rest than you think you need. The collective anxiety is affecting everyone and making us tired and irritable and irrational. That is a drain on your body systems. Nap. Go to sleep at the same time even if you don’t have to go to school or work in the morning.
Get outside the weather here outside of Philadelphia has been mild go outside in your yard, be in nature.
Distract yourself. Distraction can be a good tool for coping with stressful situations. Probably in bad taste but we have been watching disaster movies on TV, I’m thinking maybe the new Planet of the Apes next.
Keep a routine. Add to the routine-get stuff done around the house or get back to making music or art or anything else you like to do. Read a book or learn something new on YouTube.
Get fit. If you are not commuting you might have extra time to get fit- go for a walk, watch a live or recorded yoga video with us even, since that is now happening with Facebook live and zoom.
And last but not least breathe a lot, fully and mindfully feel the breath coming in and out of your body, focus on that slow exhalation to reset your nervous system.
Reach out if you need support of any kind. We will try our best to help.
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My Closet is Back to Normal and What I learned from wearing only 33 items for 3 months. By: Denise Orsulak
My closet is now back to normal. On October 1st I decided to participate in a 3-month challenge to just dress with 33 items. I wasn't sure how it was going to go, but I was committed to the process.
On the day before the challenge began for me, I emptied out my whole closet and pick the 33 items I thought would serve me best from October 1st to December 31st. Not easy. But it was doable. I boxed up all the other things in a plastic bin and moved it out of my room. All the things I was wearing could fit into about a quarter on the top hanging rack.
It didn't seem like much. But what I learned was it was enough. Surprisingly so. I will say that again, it was enough. There were a couple of times I wanted to cheat a little in the challenge. It was over a week and I didn't do laundry and there were just a few items left of my 33. I walked into my spare room and grabbed something else to wear and had to talk myself out and take off the item. It was about 2 weeks left until the end.
What I learned:
1)Temptations are real. And it's better to just remove them completely. I think this goes for any challenge you are going to do.
2) Comfort is important to me. There was one item in my 33 that I wore only once and only for a few hours because it wasn't that comfortable.
3) Sometimes you must be practical. I initially picked out an embroidered pain of jeans, but it only went with one other of my 33 and that wasn't going to last me the 3 months, so I swapped out those for a plain pair.
4) Colors make me happy. My wardrobe was toned down quite a bit, so I had more things that matched each other, but colors really brighten my mood.
5) No one noticed. And I told all the people who were coming to the yoga studio that I was doing the challenge. I even had people ask are you still doing it because they couldn't believe they couldn't tell.
6) I took much better care of the stuff I had because there wasn't an excess.
7) It helped me to stick with it by telling a lot of people. It was helpful for them to ask me how it was going. Another good tip if you are challenging yourself to do something different.
8) It was a little tricky to do this because of the weather. There was a fluctuation between 19 and 90 degrees.
9) I deserve to look and feel good, so the snug, worn, or not right clothes got donated.
10) I will do Project #333 again. I'm thinking June 1-August 31st to see if I learn anything else. I'm sure I will.
I was tempted to keep the items out of my closet but changed my mind. I am going to use my old trick of a robe belt. Every time I do the wash, I hang what I wore in front of that belt. By the end of the winter, I will consider donating any winter clothes I have not worn.
I love to experiment with these kinds of things. We don't know what enough is, until we feel it and live it. In general, I feel we have way too much. Having enough lets us focus on other things, gives us more time, and there is less effort taking care of all the excess.
Now I am looking at the excess plastic in my life. I want to reduce the amount my family and I use. Looking forward to any tips and tricks I might learn to find a way to help the environment. If we all do a little, will it be enough? I don't know but I want to do my part. Will write more on that as I progress in that process.
PS: I have a video of my closet during the challenge posted on my instagram page and also photos of my closet before and during the clean out.
Weeping is very descriptive. Don’t you think?
It’s not like crying. It’s more of a bone shaking, tear flowing, trying to regain your breathing, nose running event. You weep when you have deep sadness. You might not even know that sadness is there until it appears.
I had time today to come to my mat and just move. In the process of that movement, I was brought to tears. I noticed a deep sadness.
What was it about? To be honest I wasn’t sure.
As I continued to practice, I realized it was multi-level and multi-dimensional. Flashes of realization, not all coherent, running through my mind with corresponding feelings in my body. The present moment at its best and worse.
Sometimes you need your outer shell to crack, to feel deeply-TO WEEP.
Yoga can be scary at times because it makes you feel. It lessens the defenses and lets emotions be expressed, if you allow them to come.
This can happen in a physical practice, a meditation practice, a breathing practice, or just a mindfulness practice.
Don’t be afraid if this happens to you! You won’t break and you are not weak when emotions come to the surface.
It might occur when you need a change or to release something you were holding on to, or when you need to rest. Just know that it can happen. And hopefully it makes you feel better after it does.
I challenge you to weep if you need to-on your mat or off. Maybe tell a friend about it or write about it. And let it go and move on. Release the sadness.
We need all the feelings. We need to be able to weep so we can feel joy. Know all feelings are fleeting and ever changing. If sadness persists, please find someone to help, we all need a little help sometime as well.
So I started Project 333 on 10/1/19. What is that? Well it’s a challenge to dress with 33 items for 3 months. You can find all the details here https://bemorewithless.com/project-333/
No shopping. You pack away all the rest of your clothing and see what it feels like to dress with less. #project333
My closet looks so empty now. You can see my initial video on instagram at https://www.instagram.com/balancedforlifeyoga/
Most of my clothes now hang in just a tenth of the space that I needed before. I do feel resistance to this project coming up almost daily. An urge to just get what I want out of the other room. This is interesting to see. I have to keep telling myself to STOP, you are going to see this through. It’s just 3 months. It’s funny. Even though the resistance is there, I have learned a lot already from the experiment.
1. The term “Dirty clothes” is relative. When you have only 33 items to wear, for example a sweater or the only pair of jeans that as part of your 33 items, you choose to NOT as quickly throw them into the laundry basket. I have been hanging those items up and really thinking about if they are truly dirty or not. This will probably improve the life of my garments and also help with decreasing the amount of laundry I am doing each week.
2. Colorful Clothing make me and others happy. I had to choose more practical choices for my 33 clothing items. Things that went with each other. I initially had a pair of jeans that just went with one t-shirt and it just didn’t work out. I had to exchange them for a plain pair that worked with all the shirts I had. People comment on my colorful yoga tights and it’s fun. I kinda miss that 1 pair of jeans that has 1 shirt that goes with it because what I wear does change how I feel.
3. Comfort matters. So realizing I needed a more practical pair of jeans and picking a dark blue pair, after 12 hours I realized these were not comfortable enough to wear for the next 3 months. So I donated them. I think this exercise will make me pay more attention to those things that just don’t fit me anymore either in style or shape for my body as it is now..
4. There are things I picked that I love but need to be replaced. 2 of my long sleeved shirts that are in my 33 have holes in them. That’s 6% of my wardrobe at the moment. You might not notice, but I have. I just love the shirts so much that I am resistant to getting rid of them or replacing them. It feels good to love your clothes so much you wear them out. (But here is some resistance as well.)
5. I have a lot more time. With fewer choices, I have more time in the evening and morning when it comes time to decide what to wear. And I am doing less laundry.
6. After 2 weeks, there are still items I have not worn. The weather has been all over the place here in PA. So some of the items are more autumn type clothes like long sleeved shirts. One is a short sleeved shirt with a lot of Bling. Might not be as comfortable as I thought.
7. You pay more attention to where your stuff is. Owning a yoga studio, people leave things all the time and forget about them, even jackets. I am less likely to forget something somewhere because I will actually miss it, since I have less things to use and wear. So maybe that is giving me a whole new appreciation for what I have.
So those have been my discoveries in the last 2 weeks. I can’t wait to see what I discover in the next 2 ½ months. In case you were curious, I had 220 total items including my shirts, pants, lounge wear, shoes, wraps, outerwear, boots,belts, everything, but underwear and jewelry.
Do you think this is a crazy experiment? Would you ever give this a try? Share with me below and let me know your thoughts.
For me, Fall is a time of new beginnings. I don't know if it will always feel this way, but having kids and having school start feels more like the "New Year" than the new year.
There is so much organizing and juggling of schedules that happen for me, but it's a time when there is more routine. And boy have I been wanting that. Craving it really. I have been feeling a little lost and adrift lately. It's funny but others have been telling me that they have felt this way too.
When this happens and other feel the same way, I wonder is there some energetic disturbance, is there something in the air. I know this sounds like hippy dippy baloney, but it is often comforting to know that you are not alone in this felling of something not being quite right.
I had big plans to get organized and get a lot done over the summer, but that never happend. Initially I was bored and didn't have the momentum or focus to stay on a boring task of going through paperwork or doing all the little projects that have been hanging over my head. SO I DIDN'T DO IT.
Then I felt guilty, like what's wrong with me? I'm usually more creative! I'm always get **it done. I didn't even feel like reading.
I just had to sit with that feeling and be ok with not feeling myself. Now that we have a new beginning. This new school year. I have a little more energy. BUT having time to be a bit bored and a bit lazy, maybe helped clear my mind a little. Gave me space to think and feel a little more.
SO now I am looking at my priorities yet again before I set my schedule, so it's conducive to my how my energy is normally and having a balance between work and self-care and family and all the other obligations that come with living.
I hope that you will take this time to review your priorities as well and set boundaries on your schedule and your time so that you are living in a way that works for your body and mind and spirit. (emotionally and energetically).
I had an adventure this weekend. On my way to pick my son up from boy scout camp in Maryland, I noticed 2 dogs running down route 1 in Rising Sun, Maryland. It’s a busy highway where I was traveling to and I was worried for them, so I pulled up behind the dogs on the shoulder of the road. Another motorist in front of me, who must have passed the dogs pulled up and stopped in front of them.
We started calling the dogs, but they were a bit scared and ran away from us. Then an amazing thing happened 2 more motorist pulled up and helped up retrieve the dogs. We made a bit of a mess of the highway, and it took a little more time and coaxing, but we were able to contain them. It made me feel very good about people. The world is sometimes a pretty great place.
(Decision 1): Now none of the other helper would take the dogs with them so I volunteered.
Yes. It was going to be a bit of a headache. No. I didn’t know exactly what to do. But I knew that I needed (and wanted) to choose to help. So, I did. Dogs got loaded into my car, no tags, no collars.
(Decision 2): I continued my way and picked up my son and a friend from Camp where they were working. Ugh. Now what. Where do they boys sit? Where does their stuff go? Make a bunch of mini decisions. Look up local police station.
(Decision 3) Take a detour to the local police station. They are closed. Look up website again. Call number. No nonemergency number listed. This isn’t an emergency. Do I call 911? No. OK. Now what?
(Decision 7 or 8): Proceed home with said lost dogs to my home. FYI I’m going to stop counting now. But just notice how many mini decisions that happen next. Get home, lock my dogs away. Find extra collars and harnesses so lost dogs can’t get away. Ask for help from husband and daughter. Keep dogs locked on back deck until they calmed down. Keep my dogs separate from these dogs just in case. Outdoors doesn’t work out, so bring dogs indoors. Try to get dogs in my dog’s kennels. That doesn’t work. Have my dogs sleep in my room with my husband. Sleep downstairs on couch with dogs locked in my kitchen and sitting room area. Post of FB page that I found dogs.
All these little decisions went on and on and on. I couldn’t predict if I would have these dogs for the weekend or a few hours. With the magic of Social Media, I had 2 FB messages in the am and within 14 hours of their arrival the pups back to their owner.
The point of all this information is that there were a lot of what ifs in this scenario.
AND IF I would of thought about all those things, I wouldn’t have gotten involved. But I also would have had regret about doing nothing. So, I needed to just go with the flow and make decisions that they needed to be made when they needed to be made.
I know it seems overwhelming to make decisions at times. There is a real thing called decision fatigue. You can google it. But making decision is not so bad when you are in the moment, and don’t guess about what will happen next.
If we just wait and see what does happen first, then decide, it doesn’t wear you out as much. That way you’re not wasting energy on the what ifs. You can be present in the moment and feel good about yourself and gain confidence when you make decisions this way.
Please know that you have the ability to figure it out. We all do. But it takes decision making only when a decision needs to be made. By practicing mindfulness and bringing yourself back to the present moment repeatedly, it helps to make this easier.
So next time you’re not sure how it’s all going to work out, just make one decision, and then another and another.
That tactic helped me through this weekend.
I have faith in you. Get to those decisions.
PS Did you ever do this in your life? What was the situation?
PPS We named the dogs Bruce and Reggie. Their real names were Spike and Luca.
(This is what 5-years-old looks like. My daughter doesn't remember this story, but it's one I will never forget.)
I was reminiscing and reading some of my old journal entries and wanted to share this one with you that I wrote on May 16th, 2011. I think the lesson is even more important today in 2019.
My 5-year-old daughter confronts 2 first grade girls at our local elementary school playground who is not being nice to another girl who asks if she could play with them. There was no fear from my 5-year-old. Just a matter of fact "that's not nice". I learned a lot from her that day and it's worth revisiting now.
Children can be our greatest teachers if we are open to their lessons.
I saw the words forming on her lips from a distance, She was mouthing it to herself over and over a few times. She looked at me and made of face of not quite understanding what the issue was at hand for these girls. I encouraged her to speak her mind with a little nod of my head. And she did!
The girls rationalized that this was only a 2-player game. (They were playing kitchen with the mulch.) My 5-year-old responds by saying "you shouldn't make up the rules that way!" So true!
So many of our "rules" are just "rules" in our own mind. They are made up and untrue.
Shortly after that moment in time with my daughter, I had an experience of "What should I do?" My son was playing baseball at the time. And I overheard a coach say to one of the 8-year old boys on another team say: "You can't catch, you better be able to hit". All I could think of was "That's not nice." I was deeply conflicted.
I was angry and upset and knew if I heard this person speaking to my child like this there would be hell to pay. As a coach there is no room for insults. Were other people paying attention to what this person was saying to the children on the team? Were they keeping quiet? Do you they recognize the negative affect this could have on an 8-year-old? Was I blowing things out of proportion? Maybe this person was having a bad day? This person wasn't speaking to my kids that way, was it my business? Does anyone care? Do I care even though it wasn't my kid?
I sat with it for a day....I DID CARE!
This was bothering me. What should I do? What would you do?Sometime you just have to state the obvious. Maybe something will change, maybe it won't. I hope this story can help you to be brave in that moment when you need to say That's just not nice. Take the lead of my 5-year-old. Adults can rationalize all day about a situation, where a child just might know the right thing to do. Can you do the same?
What about me? I did call the league president at the time to let them know my concern.....
You might not have any control of the outcome, but we do have a voice and can say "That's not nice".
Speak up say it's not nice. Maybe as more of us point out the obvious. We will feel more connected and "our collective voice" could be heard saying what needs to be said.
If a 5-year-old can do it, so can you and me!
Where do you spend your time?
You might not realize this, but you have all the time in the world, and so do I. The one thing you can control is your schedule.
You might want to look at your schedule periodically, so you can adjust it.
Take a close look at your calendar to see what it is you value the most. You might be surprised to see where you are spending your time.
You might say you value your family, but then spend every free moment working even when its family time You might say you value your health, but have no time or use the excuse of being busy to not really take care of your health. You might value being with friends or having some fun, but never do those things.
You might not know that you are not actually living your values until you do this exercise. You my friend are the only one who has this control.
There is one powerful sentence that you can get familiar with to take control over your schedule and your life.
That sentence is…NO.
NO (period) is a complete sentence.
Want to start your own company? Say NO to TV in the evening. Want to hang out with friends? Say NO to clients who want the time you would spend with friends on the weekend. Want to have a quiet hour to yourself? Say NO to volunteering at your kid’s school that one time. Want to get in shape? Say NO to Facebook time. You get the idea.
But first things first:
FIRST. What are your values?
Spend a few minutes thinking about your values. What are the 3-5 things that are important to you? And write them down? Here is a list of values (see below) if you are having a hard time thinking of what I am talking about.
NEXT Practice saying no.
For example: Mom can you do my laundry? NO. Here is how you can do it yourself. 20 minutes of time back in your schedule.
NOW Schedule things that are in line with your values.
Go for a walk with a friend- exercise and socializing. Or whatever it is you want to do but feel too busy to do.
Don’t use busy as an excuse not to live the life you want to live.
Happy exploring! What are your values? Remember to reassess them every so often, because they can change.
Today my values include Community, Connection, Live within my means, Simplicity, Education, Self-Care and Honoring Myself.
Maybe you have more than this maybe you have less. Share them here if you want.
stoppedWhen life gets busy, what’s the first thing to fall away? Self-care? Exercise? Fun things you like to do? The answer I see more times then not for myself and in my client’s lives is YES, YES, YES. Life gets hectic and out of control. Someone gets sick. There is a situation with your child you must manage. There are extra activities and events at work and school. A big presentation or project on the horizon?
Recently my life was just a little overwhelming. It’s easy to say what the heck and just give up on the things that help us to feel better. I went back and looked at my calendar with curious eyes. It was 13 days since I had a full day off without working. It was 27 days since I just had a day at home where I didn’t have to go anywhere or do anything. Yesterday was my day to do nothing. To reassess. To take time. I had to fight the urge to do laundry, to answer texts about work, to send out and email or write this blog. I had to tell myself, “Denise that will all be there tomorrow. It can wait.” I had to remind myself all day long. To stop myself, from doing something.
I watched movies instead. I really like watching movies. I took a bath. Ah it’s so nice to soak in the tub. I did an hour of Pilates. That made my back feel great. I laid on the couch. I did some online browsing. I read. I meditated. I took my calcium. I did some Spanish. I cupped my knee and foot. I drank my coffee while looking out the window. So many simple pleasures in life. I scheduled full days off in my calendar for the next month. I woke up late and went to bed early.
I say so what if you stopped exercising. Or stopped taking care of yourself. Or overscheduled yourself.
Take notice and start again. You might get back to a good routine and guess what you’ll fall off again. The you must be willing to start again and again and again when this does happen to you. And it’s bound to.
We just need the right mindset.
We need to be kind to ourselves and look at the big picture.
We need to notice when we aren’t feeling our bests or when our schedule is just too hectic to manage.
NOTICE and START AGAIN. What a good motto….I had been thinking about racing as an image to keep in my line. Every time you take the starting line, it's a new race, a new opportunity, a new start. I plan to keep that in my mind each time I have to start again.
Is there anything you need to start again? Share below and become accountable for your choices.
I am recommitting to my strengthening exercises and to writing and sending this blog out on Sundays.
As a mother I have been trying to teach my kids to be themselves their whole lives. It’s a difficult thing to do for a lot of people, not just kids. But kids, especially teenagers, are trying to figure out who they are. They have strengths and weaknesses like we all do. They are just not as tuned in to what those are always. Really so many adults are not aware of their strength and weaknesses as well.
Listen Up! DO NOT CHANGE YOUR PERSONALITY for anyone!
This is for the kids as well as the adults out there who may be reading. We are born with inherent traits that who we are. Accepting them and working with them is the way to be our best selves. If you’re a serious person, you might always be on the serious side. It’s doesn’t mean you can’t soften around that personality trait, but that really might be who you are. That goes for any trait really.
Recently an adult in my son’s life told him “you should change your personality”. This is a direct quote. Luckily, I was there to hear the comment myself or I would not have believed it.
Seriously people. Can we think about what comes out of our mouths? I was a little shocked to say the least. I am usually not stunned into silence, but this time I was. And that is not an easy thing to do.
I think I didn’t say a word at that moment because I knew it didn’t matter. A younger version of myself may have stood up and gotten extremely angry and would have shared a few choice words with this person and may have stormed out of the room. But what would that have proved? I just knew it was this person’s true colors coming out. I did get angry, but it was good not to re-act in such a way. I calmed down and thought about the situation and talked about the situation with my son. And I did respond and let my thoughts be know in a calm and reasonable way.
If someone wants you to change WHO YOU ARE…that someone has A LOT TO LEARN.
Sometimes we do have to examine OUR BEHAVIORS and they indeed should change. When someone calls out our behavior, it gives us a chance to examine and explore how we act and respond to stimuli. We might be grateful to them because sometimes our behaviors are habits that we don’t even notice because we have been responding in an unconscious way. And whenever we are unconscious or not present, those habits can be holding us back.
But if someone wants you to change your personality, there are telling you that you are not good enough as you are. We need to surround ourselves by people who accept who we are.
We all need to come from a place of wholeness. When I teach kids or adults yoga, I often remind them who they are is who they are.
We need serious people, goofy people, emotional people, passionate people, stubborn people, thoughtful people, truthful people, pushy people, direct people, and all the other types of people.
What you call a negative personality trait may be a real benefit to that person. Even those traits that we think are negative still make up the whole person.
We need to be kind. Examine our own behaviors. Let’s stop asking people to change who they are. Let’s look at the big picture and focus on people’s strengths and behaviors. And if someone needs to change a behavior, focus on that.
Pretending to be something you are not wounds our soul, our self-esteem, and drains our energy.
If you are in a position working with children, can you please build them up and not bring them down. Be thoughtful of your words when interacting with them. Words matter. People matter.
I am grateful for this person for giving me a real-life experience to talk to my son about. This is a difficult lesson for him to learn at such a young age. It’s better to learn now not to bow down and compromise who you are for someone else. But I know someone else in the future will ask him to change who he is. This happens to all of us. And you must make a choice. Continue to interact with that person or cut the ties. You always have a choice.
In this situation, the choice is clear. Time to move on from the interaction and relationship with this person.
Be who you are and say how you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those that do don’t mine- Dr. Seuss
Do you have the tools to find acceptance? When you are in a situation when there is no good choice...you might feel conflicted, angry, exhausted, sorrow, hurt, or pain.
You must feel all the feelings. Really feel them and let them come through to come to a place of acceptance.
Acceptance doesn't come easy. There might be a mental temper tantrum that happens, a kicking and screaming in your brain.
As a parent, we share our children’s' joys and sorrows, pain and happiness. It's no joke. It might bring flash backs of your past. Painful memories that we thought were behind us might be re-lived again and again.
Better to experience those feelings even if they bring sorrow and tears. But when all that emotion is processed, Acceptance may come to you.
From a place of acceptance and presence, we can think through options and sit with information.
Acceptance is elusive, it can sneak away. When it does, feelings can begin to churn again. This is now. This is what is happening now. This is how I am feeling now. This reminds me of when....what?
Bringing yourself back to right now, to present moment, allows us to lasso acceptance and reel it back to a place where we can grasp and hold onto it.
Talking to people who have your back, sitting still in meditation, being in silence, might be some of the threads of the lasso that make it strong enough to capture the elusive acceptance.
We need a tool or tools to keep bringing acceptance back again and again. It can be too fast and agile without the tools. You can never move forward without that first step.
Remember when you are the most tired, exhausted, beat up, you still have tools to get you through those times. YOU need to find the energy to use the tools you have at your disposal.
When acceptance is captured, there is a calm that might settle over you...the underlying emotions still might be present as well...but the calm is there all the same.
That calm is the place to make your decisions from. Never a moment before.
I hope that you have some tools that help you find and hold onto acceptance when you need it most.
Your tool box might include some kind of exercising, running, painting, journaling, screaming in the car, breathing, yoga practices, meditation, watching a sad or happy movie, reading, punching a pillow or punching bag, hiking, playing with your dog, talking with friends or a therapist.
What do you do to process emotions to find acceptance when you are in a difficult situation? Share so we can all learn from each other.
Perspective and Experience. Both things I think I have. Both those things you can't bestow on another living being.
With perspective and experience, you can see when a situation needs to be addressed and changed.
With perspective and experience, you know there is only one outcome to a situation.
When you don't have perspective and experience, it seems like holding on to sameness is the way to go.
That change will give you freedom. It will give you a chance to start over and release the burdens you have been carrying.
With perspective and experience, it's not quitting but moving on.
By moving on, you release the old patterns and start fresh. You can open new doors that can take you to new places.
Yes starting fresh can be scary. Anything new is. Be brave! Feel the scary and move on anyway!
In certain situations, there is no reason to stay. Staying when you cannot change a situation is not brave or honorable or even good for you.
It wears you down over time. You might lose focus. You might get tired. You might get angry, resentful, frustrated. Life is too short for any of those things, but you only realize that with perspective and experience.
Ever feel helpless when you could see something that another person could not? You know you can’t change someone’s mind, because something they must learn for themselves. How do you deal with that? This perspective and experience blog arose from a situation that my 15-year-old needed to figure out on his own. As a mother, it’s such a hard place to be in.
Share below so we can all learn from each other.
Ever have a people suck week?
That's what I was thinking until the Universe or God or Whoever sent me a message.
Sometimes we can get caught up in the negativity of the world. Yeah sometimes people suck.
But most of the time they don't. When we are having a particularly trying week, you might start to believe this. We say it in our heads, we notice more when people are at their worst. It can become a negative mantra of sorts.
If it really gets stuck in your head, it can turn into a belief. Growing up my dad had this belief. And it really brought him down. You start just seeing the negative and you miss out on the positive.
For me, I truly believe people are mostly good. This doesn't apply to everyone because there are plenty of people who do bad things. Unfortunately, news is filled with this. There is not a balance of headline with people doing amazing great things.
So as I was going along having this false statement of people suck in my mind when BAM...
2 Messages come to me:
The first one "You're only human" a direct quote to me from a very loving and kind Thai Yoga Bodywork client of mine who I had forgotten to put on my schedule when I was sick and who waited for me to come in after she kindly texted me to see where I was and gave me time to get my butt to the studio to see her.
Yep I am human. I tell people that all the time when I am teaching yoga. I'm blessed that there was someone there to remind and reflect this back to me. Because it's a lot easier to say this to others than it is to say it to our self.
And message two, came through just a day later. A stranger bought me a coffee. I never saw this woman before. She was in line ahead of me. I smiled at her and said hello. I ordered and she quickly presented a gift card on her phone. My thoughts changed in an instant. So many questions popping in to my head all at once....
Did she sense I was having a bad week? Was she just planning on buying a stranger coffee that morning?
I was stunned at first. I did turn toward her in time to thank her as she walked quickly out the door.
I continued to process and felt perplexed and full of emotion. I had to hold back tears. Were they tears of joy? Relief? Happiness? A combination?
People don't suck. Of course, I know that. Thank you! Is all I can say to Universe or Whoever sent me the message. I am grateful that I was mindful enough to realize these messages and reset my thoughts. I want to believe people are good at their core.
Did you ever get a message from God or the Universe? How was it delivered? Did it give you hope?
Share in the comment section below so we can all learn from each other!
What's important right now?
What do you care about most?
Where do you want to be at this moment?
How can you make a difference in the world?
Big or Small
You are important in this world
You have choices
You can get direction and guidance
You can give direction and guidance
Life is not easy
But it's Ok when its hard
Accept the difficult times
Telling someone else
Can give you courage to change, to see, to be
To do something about it
I'm here to tell you that flawed action is better than no action.
This comes up for me all the time. You may have read my email newsletter that I sent out the other day. I had a lot of information to get out and missed a few things. Mostly spelling errors. You might say to me...
Denise you're not being professional if you send out an email with misspelled words.
Oh by the way, can you see the 2 errors in the photo above?
Next time I will be a bit more deliberate, but I really wanted to get the information out and I had a certain amount of time to do it in, so I just did it in that time frame and it wasn't perfect.
I did a check through constant contact all the links and dates were right, the program just doesn't have that darn spell check.
Anyway, how many of you keep putting off doing something because you want to get it right or are afraid of getting it wrong.
You won't put yourself out there because thoughts of "I'm not ready", "I can't change", "I need more education", "I need a little more time to get this just right", or "I'm just not sure". "I'm not smart enough", "I'm not....you fill in the blank".
These thoughts slow us down. We can get so bogged down that no action happens for a very looooong time.
If you find yourself thinking these things, don't let them hold you back, and remember this again and again flawed action is better than no action.
Of course, if you were a brain surgeon or an air traffic controller this doesn't necessarily apply. But there are a ton of little things we get hung up on that might nudge us in the right direction.
For me, I got the information out. Someone pointed out my flawed attempt...
And I was grateful for that.
Really! I don't feel bad that things were spelled wrong. I will remember next time to do a quick read through, but I accomplished my goal of getting all the cool things happening at our yoga studio out to the public.
Will people judge me for it?
Maybe. But that's not on me. That's on them.
Sometimes I screw up when I am teaching a class as well. I forget a pose on one side. I get rights and lefts mixed up and have to just say "switch" sides. Sometimes we are tired. Sometimes we feel time crunches. Sometimes if we just don't push send- nothing will happen.
And we get stuck.
I am human. I am flawed, but I get stuff done and I move toward my goals even if it's not perfect. Even if I make a mistake or 10, it's Ok to do so. Nothing is perfect. No one is perfect.
Do you think you need to be perfect? Think again.
Be flawed. Put yourself out there. Show people you are human and take action. That misstep helped me to write this post. Maybe it will touch someone and they will take action even if it's not perfect, even if they aren't sure what action is teh right one.
See that make me feel good about my mistake. It's not so bad to make them.
What flawed action have you taken to reach a goal? Or have you been stuck because you want to get something just right?
Post below so we can all learn from each other!
This blog is a reflection of things going on my life and the world around us. Through yoga we always try to look at things in a different light!