Do you have the tools to find acceptance?  When you are in a situation when there is no good choice...you might feel conflicted, angry, exhausted, sorrow, hurt, or pain.

You must feel all the feelings.  Really feel them and let them come through to come to a place of acceptance.

Acceptance doesn't come easy.  There might be a mental temper tantrum that happens, a kicking and screaming in your brain.

As a parent, we share our children’s' joys and sorrows, pain and happiness.  It's no joke.  It might bring flash backs of your past.  Painful memories that we thought were behind us might be re-lived again and again.

Better to experience those feelings even if they bring sorrow and tears.  But when all that emotion is processed, Acceptance may come to you.  

From a place of acceptance and presence, we can think through options and sit with information.

Acceptance is elusive, it can sneak away.  When it does, feelings can begin to churn again.  This is now.  This is what is happening now.  This is how I am feeling now.  This reminds me of when....what?

Bringing yourself back to right now, to present moment, allows us to lasso acceptance and reel it back to a place where we can grasp and hold onto it. 

Talking to people who have your back, sitting still in meditation, being in silence, might be some of the threads of the lasso that make it strong enough to capture the elusive acceptance.

We need a tool or tools to keep bringing acceptance back again and again.  It can be too fast and agile without the tools.  You can never move forward without that first step.

Remember when you are the most tired, exhausted, beat up, you still have tools to get you through those times.  YOU need to find the energy to use the tools you have at your disposal.

When acceptance is captured, there is a calm that might settle over you...the underlying emotions still might be present as well...but the calm is there all the same.

That calm is the place to make your decisions from.  Never a moment before.  

I hope that you have some tools that help you find and hold onto acceptance when you need it most.

Your tool box might include some kind of exercising, running, painting, journaling, screaming in the car, breathing, yoga practices, meditation, watching a sad or happy movie, reading, punching a pillow or punching bag, hiking, playing with your dog, talking with friends or a therapist.  

What do you do to process emotions to find acceptance when you are in a difficult situation?  Share so we can all learn from each other.

Warmly,

Denise

Perspective and Experience.  Both things I think I have.  Both those things you can't bestow on another living being.

With perspective and experience, you can see when a situation needs to be addressed and changed.

With perspective and experience, you know there is only one outcome to a situation.

When you don't have perspective and experience, it seems like holding on to sameness is the way to go.

That change will give you freedom.  It will give you a chance to start over and release the burdens you have been carrying.

With perspective and experience, it's not quitting but moving on.

By moving on, you release the old patterns and start fresh.  You can open new doors that can take you to new places.

Yes starting fresh can be scary.  Anything new is.  Be brave!  Feel the scary and move on anyway!

In certain situations, there is no reason to stay.  Staying when you cannot change a situation is not brave or honorable or even good for you.  

It wears you down over time.  You might lose focus.  You might get tired.  You might get angry, resentful, frustrated.  Life is too short for any of those things, but you only realize that with perspective and experience.

Ever feel helpless when you could see something that another person could not?  You know you can’t change someone’s mind, because something they must learn for themselves.  How do you deal with that?  This perspective and experience blog arose from a situation that my 15-year-old needed to figure out on his own.  As a mother, it’s such a hard place to be in.

Share below so we can all learn from each other.

Warmly,

Denise

Ever have a people suck week?
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That's what I was thinking until the Universe or God or Whoever sent me a message.

Sometimes we can get caught up in the negativity of the world.  Yeah sometimes people suck.

But most of the time they don't.  When we are having a particularly trying week, you might start to believe this.  We say it in our heads, we notice more when people are at their worst.  It can become a negative mantra of sorts.  

If it really gets stuck in your head, it can turn into a belief.  Growing up my dad had this belief.  And it really brought him down.  You start just seeing the negative and you miss out on the positive.

For me, I truly believe people are mostly good.  This doesn't apply to everyone because there are plenty of people who do bad things.  Unfortunately, news is filled with this.  There is not a balance of headline with people doing amazing great things.  

So as I was going along having this false statement of people suck in my mind when BAM...

2 Messages come to me:

The first one "You're only human"  a direct quote to me from a very loving and kind Thai Yoga Bodywork client of mine who I had forgotten to put on my schedule when I was sick and who waited for me to come in after she kindly texted me to see where I was and gave me time to get my butt to the studio to see her.

Yep I am human.  I tell people that all the time when I am teaching yoga.  I'm blessed that there was someone there to remind and reflect this back to me.  Because it's a lot easier to say this to others than it is to say it to our self.

And message two, came through just a day later.  A stranger bought me a coffee.  I never saw this woman before.  She was in line ahead of me.  I smiled at her and said hello.  I ordered and she quickly presented a gift card on her phone.  My thoughts changed in an instant.  So many questions popping in to my head all at once....

Did she sense I was having a bad week?  Was she just planning on buying a stranger coffee that morning?  
I was stunned at first.  I did turn toward her in time to thank her as she walked quickly out the door.  

I continued to process and felt perplexed and full of emotion.  I had to hold back tears.  Were they tears of joy? Relief? Happiness? A combination?

People don't suck.  Of course, I know that.  Thank you! Is all I can say to Universe or Whoever sent me the message.  I am grateful that I was mindful enough to realize these messages and reset my thoughts. I want to believe people are good at their core.

Did you ever get a message from God or the Universe?  How was it delivered?  Did it give you hope?  

Share in the comment section below so we can all learn from each other!

With Love,
​Denise

What's important right now?
What do you care about most?
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Where do you want to be at this moment?
How can you make a difference in the world?

Big or Small
You are important in this world 

You have choices
You can get direction and guidance
You can give direction and guidance

Life is not easy
But it's Ok when its hard
Accept the difficult times

Telling someone else
Can give you courage to change, to see, to be
To do something about it

​Be Courageous

I'm here to tell you that flawed action is better than no action.

This comes up for me all the time.  You may have read my email newsletter that I sent out the other day.  I had a lot of information to get out and missed a few things.  Mostly spelling errors.  You might say to me...

Denise you're not being professional if you send out an email with misspelled words. 

Oh by the way, can you see the 2 errors in the photo above?

Next time I will be a bit more deliberate, but I really wanted to get the information out and I had a certain amount of time to do it in, so I just did it in that time frame and it wasn't perfect. 

I did a check through constant contact all the links and dates were right, the program just doesn't have that darn spell check.  

Anyway, how many of you keep putting off doing something because you want to get it right or are afraid of getting it wrong.

​You won't put yourself out there because thoughts of "I'm not ready", "I can't change", "I need more education", "I need a little more time to get this just right", or "I'm just not sure". "I'm not smart enough", "I'm not....you fill in the blank".

These thoughts slow us down.  We can get so bogged down that no action happens for a very looooong time.

If you find yourself thinking these things, don't let them hold you back, and remember this again and again flawed action is better than no action.  

Of course, if you were a brain surgeon or an air traffic controller this doesn't necessarily apply.  But there are a ton of little things we get hung up on that might nudge us in the right direction.

For me, I got the information out.  Someone pointed out my flawed attempt...

And I was grateful for that. 

Really!  I don't feel bad that things were spelled wrong.  I will remember next time to do a quick read through, but I accomplished my goal of getting all the cool things happening at our yoga studio out to the public.

Will people judge me for it?

​Maybe.  But that's not on me.  That's on them.

Sometimes I screw up when I am teaching a class as well.  I forget a pose on one side.  I get rights and lefts mixed up and have to just say "switch" sides.  Sometimes we are tired.  Sometimes we feel time crunches.  Sometimes if we just don't push send- nothing will happen.

And we get stuck.

I am human.  I am flawed, but I get stuff done and I move toward my goals even if it's not perfect.  Even if I make a mistake or 10, it's Ok to do so.  Nothing is perfect.  No one is perfect.

Do you think you need to be perfect? Think again.

Be flawed.  Put yourself out there.  Show people you are human and take action.  That misstep helped me to write this post.  Maybe it will touch someone and they will take action even if it's not perfect, even if they aren't sure what action is teh right one.

See that make me feel good about my mistake.  It's not so bad to make them.

What flawed action have you taken to reach a goal? Or have you been stuck because you want to get something just right?

​Post below so we can all learn from each other!

Warmly,

Denise

Over the summer, I had decided to catch up on some chores that had not been done in years.  Years of living in my wonderful house.  There are some chores that take up A LOT of time, but you don't realize it until you get started.  

One of those chores on this particular day was power washing my pool deck.  I don't recall doing it once in the 8 years that I had lived in my home.  It seemed fine.  I didn't think it was that bad, until I got started. 

WOW!  

The accumulation of dirt and debris was unbelievable.  This was going to be a bigger task than I first thought.  So I decide to take my time.  Only 1-2 hours a day instead of tackling the whole things at once.  

I realized a couple of things that week.

1. Until you give your utmost attention to anything, you don't really know what you will discover

2.   The work became something to look forward to...it was a meditative time to feel water splashing on my feet, to pay close attention to detail so I wouldn't miss a spot, to feel a sense of accomplishment....seeing the difference my work made (see photo).

3.  I realized I could compare my pool deck to people's lives, bodies, and emotions.  Sometime we don't realize what "stuff" is accumulating in our hearts, bodies, and minds because it's such a slow process over time.  That pool deck didn't get layer and layer of dirt on it overnight.  It took years and years of neglect for it to get to the point that is was at that moment.  

Our hearts, bodies, and mind are sometimes neglected for years and years as well.  And we don't notice the those things that can build up inside of us ...fear, anger, despair, sadness.  All the things that can't be seen until you start to pay attention, until you do something about it.  

We need a power washer to rid those things within us.  My power washer for my life has been yoga, meditation, and contemplation.   Just like I took a week to clean the pool deck, I have taken many years to add practices and refine them.  If I jumped all into those things at once, I might have just walked away before I noticed a difference.  

You can wash away those cumulative hurts, but it takes time and the right tool.  For my pool deck, it was a power washer.

For your hear, mind, or spirit, it might be mindfulness, yoga, meditation, contemplation, therapy, self study or some other tool, but you need a tool.

It's only when we "know" there is an accumulation of ________(you fill in the blank).  When we stop and decide to work on it.  Can you see just how tarnished you felt.  Can you see it's there?  Can you say Oh yeah, that's a problem for me.  Then we can start to work to rise all that "stuff" away that is maybe holding us back or making us feel like we aren't who we really are.  

Because under that "dirt" is a bright light, an amazing person that wants to shine through.  That's been there all along.  

What techniques or tools do  you use in your life to wash away anything your body, mind, or soul doesn't need?

Share below so we can all learn from each other!

Did I mention, this takes time, patience, and persistence, and paying really close attention to what's pulling you away from the present moment.

Namaste.  The light in me honor the light in you!

​Denise

I love the time around New Years. It reminds me to look back at the past year to see what felt great in my life and what was just meh or downright awful.
 
I look through my calendar day by day "to see" where my time, money, and attention was spent. This is done while having a written list of my personal values close by to see if I have been true to myself or not.
 
I must do this to remember. I forget so many things good and not so good. I think we tend to remember the not so good things more than the good. So, a reflection on the past, helps to plan your future. And focus on the good and the progress and growth that happens in a year and maybe even in several years.
 
This past year brought me:
 
To a new yoga space, one that is filled with warmth (literally from radiant floor heat) and so many new friends I have met through our community.
 
To meeting so many new professionals talking about Yoga Therapy, to Tai Chi, to meditation.
 
To being awarded a mentor pin from my 15-year-old son who received his Eagle Scout Award.
 
To paying extra close attention to my body and building strength to help alleviate back pain I had been experiencing for some time.
 
To starting an "exercise class" Core Strength and Balance that was new to me teaching that has been so much fun and helpful in keeping me motivated to do core strengthening.
 
To letting go of the things that were not enriching my life.
 
To letting go of relationships that didn't sync up with my personal values.
 
What was missing in 2018?
 
Education...The stuff that keeps my creativity flowing and time away to give me space from my day to day.
 
I realized in my year review that I had been putting off some course that I have been wanting to take for some time now. I love to take courses and to learn new things and ways to help myself and my clients as well.
 
For example, I had been looking at this Life Coaching Course at a local community college for more than the last year, but it's only on Saturdays and Saturdays are busy with my family and I teach yoga on Saturdays. Case in point....there will never be a good time to take this course, AND I signed up for it New Year's Day and I will not be able to teach my Saturday Class and I will miss a Gymnastics and Swim meet, AND it will be just fine when I explain that all to my students and family members.
 
SO, I registered, and I can't wait to attend!
 
Other exciting opportunities that I already scheduled? A weekend in a Tiny House to give it a go, a sports medicine class in Boston that will keep my young gymnast her healthiest, A myofascial release course that's been on my to do for 10 years!
 
How many people have you heard I'll do that when...I am on vacation, or when my kids are older, or some other time in the future? That when might never come.
 
I say listen to your heart and start today. Make the time for what's important to you. Write those things on the calendar before your calendar gets filled up with all the other things to do.
 
I encourage you to look at your calendar and see what you did last year and see what is calling you and challenge yourself to follow the call...Make it work somehow. Don't wait to learn and grow. Do it now. Ask for help. Take baby steps to design the life you want to live.
 
Happy New Year! And let us know what it is that you have been drawn to doing.... writing a book, learning an instrument, painting, starting an exercise program, switching jobs, spending more time with family, traveling adventures?
 
With Love,
 
Denise

When I first heard this questions, I thought it was the best.  It can apply to anything new that might be happening in our lives or it might apply when we know we need to make a change but we just don't know where to start.

Fear can be so paralyzing at times, that we do nothing for so long, while longing for something different to happen.  

We get stuck and stick with what we know even though, something better might be just around the corner.  

You have to want something more than you are afraid of it to make a change.

Want to live a less busy life?
Want to lose weight or get in shape?  
Want a new job or start your own business?
Want a better relationship with your spouse or children?

YOU can improve your situation, most of the time, but a lot of people are afraid.  They get stuck.  They don't know what to do, so they do nothing at all.

If you are in this predicament at the moment, I think you should ask yourself this question: 

Do I want it more than I am afraid of it?

And then...
Really think about it. 

And then ask...
Am I stuck?

And really think about that too. 

And then ask yourself:

What is the one things I can do that is different than what I am doing now to make that change happen?

Sometime I like to throw in one more questions:

What's the worst thing that would happen if I followed this through?

My mind gives some fantastical stories.  Then I  have to ask:

Are they true?...most times they are not.  And that helps to give me perspective.

What do you want more than you are afraid of?  Is there something in your life right now you want to change? What's worse doing the same thing over and over again or getting a little uncomfortable with change? What do you have to do to live a life you want to live? How will you start making small changes to make it happen?

Share in the comment section below so we can all learn from one another!

Here's to asking the right questions!

Love,

Denise

I have been feeling a little angry this week.  Angry about "the world" not seeing the big picture anymore.  And also feeling ALONE in my thinking.  

Why do we get so hyper-focused in the things we do?  Why can't we remember what is really important...the essence of all things and activities?

I'll give you two examples:

1) My son will be entering high school next year.  At the parent orientation the school talked the good talk about our kids having a balanced course schedule, but  it felt insincere to me.  The voice in my head was shouting "liar liar pants on fire."

When thinking about school, some people are focused just on the grades and on the college and on setting a kids up for success in life and I say wait a sec...slow down.  What's the purpose of school?  What's the essence of that experience for yourself or your children?  

It's not about how many AP courses you can jam into your schedule or about his weighted ranking. I see this thinking as a direct flight to stress and anxiety.

The essence of school is to figuring out what my son might like to, how he can contribute in this world, what might be his purpose, how to be independent, how to make tough decision, how to find out what he values, and to make mistakes that he can learn from. 

Maybe it's OK not to take one more AP class, or get a bad grade, or not turn in an assignment.  In the big picture, does this really matter?  And why do we get so worked up about it?  Do we really have to micromanage our children or anyone else for that matter?

2) My daughter was getting an assessment for softball so she could be ranked for a draft.  I was very conflicted about this process.  She was in 5th grade for god's sake.  Anyway, while sitting there, I over heard a man who was going to be a coach say.  "I don't mind coaching a team as long as I get a couple of bats and pitches."  This made me so fired up.  Again 3rd-5th graders we are talking about, not major league professional athletes.  I would never want this guy to coach my kid.  He's not understanding the essence of kids sports, he is just worried about "bats and pitches", not about my kid.

What is the essence of kids sports? It's NOT about being ranked #1; to win, win, win.  It's for kids to learn to persist, to find the value in practice, to interact with their peers and learn sportsmanship within their own team and between the teams they play.  It's to work hard and keep trying when you are having a bad day and things are tough and not going your way.

I wish that we would stop more in order to shift our perspective. Taking a little time, would help us to remember the essence of things, to boil down those activities that we do every day, so we can get to the core of the matter.

Maybe you can look at something that you do in your life and re-think the why of it? Maybe taking that time will give you a different perspective?  Maybe we would all have a little less stress and more joy if we lived this way....JUST MAYBE....

What do you think?  Can you think of any other examples of when or where these principles can be applied to your life? Or when there are other times you might forget the big picture?  

Please share below so we can all learn from each other.

Warmly,

​Denise

I had 2 opportunities to play ball inside with my daughter this month. It was precarious. Things could have been broken, but it was worth the risk. Our relationship was strengthened. That is more important than ANY THING I own.

The first time we played ball, it was totally for her. It was cold and raining and she had softball evaluations later that day. So we played inside. It was fun and spontaneous.

On the second occasion it was for me.  I bought a volleyball.  I love/loved volleyball and had not played in so many years. My daughter choose one for me at the store.  It was so colorful.  She happened to pick it up, for a few minutes, I had fun, I  had some play time, and was able to teach her a couple of things.

Did you noticed I mentioned fun 2x already?  FUN IS GOOD. FUN CAN BE SPONTANEOUS.  Fun can happen indoors on rainy days for short or long periods of time.

Making time for "playing ball", being spontaneous even when conditions are not ideal is really important in my opinion. You can play in so many ways.  Maybe it's not ball in the house.  Maybe it's a video tournament with your kids.  Maybe you can make a masterpiece.  

Fun in important in life.  It renews our energy.  It connects us to each other, perhaps a spouse, friend, child, or parent.  So if FUN knocks on your door in a way that's not practical-Like when it's raining and you might break something.  I challenge you to take that risk. To jump in and have spontaneous fun.  Build your energy and make connections.

My advice Play ball inside! I think you might see that it was worth it!

How do you play ball inside?  Have you had a recent experience that you can relate this to?  Please share below in the comments your thought and examples, so we all can learn from each other.

​Maybe you will be more open to doing so if the experience comes your way.

With love,

Denise

"Commitment is an agreement or pledge to do something in the future."  When I looked up the meaning, it kind of made me pause.  
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In yoga, we tell you to focus on the present on the here and now.  So for a commitment to stand you have to look to the future and make a promise that you will do it.

I see priorities shifting in people's schedule all the time (myself included). Often we commit to something, we change our mind, try again, again something comes up.  I see this in some of my student's yoga practice as well.  There can always be something better to do, than what you have planned today. I guess that's the problem with the future and the difficulty with commitment.  

A pledge is a binding promise or agreement.  We will keep our pledges to others but will quickly break a pledge to ourselves.  Why do so many people break their commitment or pledge to take care of themselves?  As a wellness professional, I find this very heartbreaking because in the long run I know there will be pain and suffering that comes with that.

In general, we know what will help us to stay healthy and to be happy, but there is this pressure to do other things: work things, family things, house things, many things that interfere with our commitments to our health and well being. 

Don't you function better when you are healthy and happy?

We have yoga students and bodywork clients who are just rock solid with their commitment to show up at a class or make regular appointments to take care of their bodies. When I asked them what their driving force was, here are some replies:

"I know what it feels like to be in pain from and injury and never ever wanting to experience that again, so I put my workout and bodywork appointments in my calendar. It keep me focused on my health."-AW

"This is the one thing I do for myself and it always makes me feel better after I get a session.  I work so hard all the other time  of the week."-EY

"Life is no different for me than everyone else: I'm busy and over-committed between work, family, and a myriad of other responsibilities.  I make time for yoga and taking care of myself because it's some of the best time I spend all week and it gives me the energy I need to meet other commitments,  Yoga is an essential part of my life." -FA

"I'm a busy professional and father and experience a lot of stress and time demands.  Monthly Thai sessions are an oasis in an other wise crazy life.  The sessions help me to manage emotional stress, physical aches and pains, and generally a reset of my mind, body and spirit." -PM

Personally, when I turned 40, I committed to a monthly bodywork session.  It has helped me to manage so many things.  I look forward to my monthly sessions.  I always, always book my next session because if I do not, I won't necessarily have the open space in my schedule when I need some healing work.  I have been doing this for my yoga practice as well.  Scheduling a class with the same teacher each week has been a good practice for me.  Even though I can do yoga on my own at home.  Having someone guide me and to give me something else to think about during class has been invaluable.

Committing to health and well being makes the rest of your life run more smoothly.  Even though it's hard to keep those commitments to yourself, it's so worth it in the end.  You often do get the immediate results of this.  It might not even seem to be making a difference until you stop doing it.  And there will always to the temptation to stop because life happens.  BUT you can recommit at anytime.  So if you have let your well-being take a back seat, I urge you to recommit today.

Sign up and pay for a weekly yoga or meditation class now.  Stick with a day and a certain teacher. After 8 weeks, you might have a new healthy habit that fuels and energizes and focuses you enough to do all the other commitments you have. The practice might also make it clearer that some commitments that are not serving you need to go.

Get a monthly or bimonthly bodywork sessions when you stick with a specific body worker or massage therapist, they get to know your bodies quirks and can help you navigate your habits that might be causing you dysfunction, stress, or strain in your body.

If you are committed to a wellness practice, share your why below!  Perhaps you will inspire other to re-commit to their health and well-being too!

Love,

Denise

I am feeling the pull of despair in my throat and heart.
Both seem to be sinking.  

An invisible pull downward and inward perhaps with suffering and sorrow.

And it’s OK.
It’s Ok to notice and feel.
It’s OK to be worried and anxious.

It’s all OK.  I tell myself again.

Everyone feels this way sometimes.

I sit and I notice.
I take deep breaths and sigh.
I know this too shall pass.

So I write and think and do what I can and have energy for and I rest and take the time I need to build back up again for I am always whole, no matter what thoughts pass through my mind or what feelings want to tug me under.

I am whole and so are you…

Remember this with all your heart and soul.

When I share my truth, the heaviness lifts.

Thank You for listening and hearing me without fixing it.

When I move my body the cord begins to soften, the grip is not so tight.

There is a lightness just around the corner in my heart if I notice and allow….

I wrote this last November, but have been feeling this way again the last few days.   This happens from time to time.  We all have dark days.  It's impossible not to. 

Holidays are hard for me sometime and maybe they are hard for you too.  Holidays bring the past and future to us.  They pull us out of the present quite a bit.  Anticipation comes: what to eat, who to buy for, how you will spend your precious hours off?  Who will you visit and when?  Juggling.  Bending.  Compromising.  Sometime pretending.  

So again I noticed and allowed.  I felt it and those feelings sucked.  I told someone my feelings they didn't try to fix it and I was grateful.  And again the darkness started to lift.  

Can you notice and allow? Can you find someone to share these feelings with? What might help you get to that place where you can notice and allow?

Please share your thoughts and comments below so we can all learn from each other!

With love,

Denise

I'll never be a Lifetime Fitness Center.  It's a fact.  Pure and Simple.  Over the summer, Lifetime Fitness came to town.  Being a small business owner, was I worried.  At first, not really. I didn't think anything about it.  I was happy, content, and confident about what I was offering at Balanced for Life Yoga.  We have grown so much in our 3 years of business.  The studio feels like home to me and for many of our students as well.  I know what we offer at Balanced for Life Yoga Therapy is different than what you get at a big chain. 

We have:
Unique programs and experiences
A teaching staff with so many varied skills and styles
A small a caring community
A wanting to bring people together
A willingness to get to know our students on a deeper level 

BUT then I got nervous! I started to hear chatter at other local yoga studios, or people who worked at the Y, saying they noticed a decline in attendance in their spaces.  Then various students of ours mentioned about "all my friends just joined Lifetime" or "several of our yoga teachers are teaching there now". 

Bigger is better thinking can undermine everything we do.  (If you let it!)

I had to stop myself and reflect.  I'll never be a Lifetime is true, but I never really want to be either.  I'm OK being the little guy, doing my part in the way I am.  It's OK to have my little space and to grow organically.  Not forcing myself to be something I am not.  

I am grateful for my yoga community.  I am grateful for my space that holds 8 students.  I am grateful for our regular teachers (Josette, Leslie, Mindie, Jen, Allie, Molly, Daria) and those who have been our guests.  Because I am grateful for being able to also hold space for those who join us.  I see people change, sometimes it is gradually over time, sometimes it's like a lights switch has been turned on.  It's like I am a witness to little miracles every day.  

I've seen people get help for their demons that have been haunting them, letting go of past hurts from childhood, change from having so many anxieties and fears to becoming confident and calm, to ask for support when they would have done it alone, and so many other things that seem small, but are not at all.  I am so grateful for being able to witness all these miracles.  

There is a place for bigger.  There is a place for all the Lifetimes, and there is definitely a place for all the small places like Balanced for Life Yoga, that don't ever want to be big.  Bigger isn't better.  It's just different.

With 3 years of Balanced for Life Yoga in the books, I am just hoping that we can continue to provide a community, with caring and connected teachers, in a relaxed and intimate atmosphere where our clients and teachers can feel safe, heard, and be themselves without judgement.

Do you ever feel pressured to be or do more?  Share below so we can all learn from each other!

Thanks to you!

Warmly,

Denise


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Recently, I decided to give myself a 24 hour respite to Cape May, NJ. On the drive there, I made a decision.  Drive in silence.  No radio, no GPS.  Two and a half hours should be a cakewalk, right?

Not so...I notice my attention being drawn back to the radio nob again and again.  Maybe I should use the GPS, then I will have some company.

But after a while, I started to settle.  I was in no hurry.  So what if I got a little lost.  I started to notice so many more details with out the distraction of those things I usually have on in the background when I am driving.  

A sign in a small town painted on the side of a barn read "The grass is greener here".

How interesting I think.  I notice all the small abandoned homes covered in moss, crumbling steps and all.  I wonder why are there so many?  I am tempted to stop my car and look around.  What has become of the inhabitants that once lived here?

I notice that I do not trust my instincts.  Maybe I will just look at the map on my phone and see where I am and how much longer until I get there.  Where am I headed? Not trusting I will find the way without outside help.

WOW what a realization! Not trusting that I will find the way without outside help.

As I write that sentence I am drawn to the fact that I might do this in real life more often than I care to admit.  Doubting my inner GPS in favor of a shinier, more technologically advanced version.  

Perhaps yours, but definitely my inner intuition gets fuzzy, staticy at times just like a radio station might get between towns.  

How do we tune in?  How do we start to believe that the static that comes across our radio waves, our inner GPS, will disapate? So that we will hear the music of our own lives coming in loud and clear?

I am a work in progress.  Constantly noticing things about myself.  Trying desparately to trust the inner guidance system within me even when the signal is fuzzy.

The silence might be tough, but it is so necessary.  When I take it in, experience it, and live it for a little while, the signal within gets stronger.  It's like a new cell phone tower was placed close by to make the communication stronger, clearer, and louder without the static.

Find you quite place...maybe you have no choice but to change your routine to get it.  Maybe you need to get out of town like I did.  Maybe you can drive without the radio or GPS.  

We all need that quiet time no matter how tough it is or how scary it is to you.  It's time to forget the fancy gadgets, and what everyone else thinks and says we should do.  

Tune into silence, connect to your inner guidance system.  You might be surprised at what comes through!

Do you take time for silence now?  Why or Why Not?  If not, what is holding you back?  Please share a comment below, like this blog, or share on FB, so we can all learn from each other.

With love,

Denise

But there are many days that I don't.  The word that is going through my head at the moment is CHAOS.

This is a far cry from what my 2 words for the year are supposed to be...Relaxed and Easy.

Now chaos is a little funny and a little sneaky...you've been doing and feeling great, relaxed, and easy and then bang, you are not.

You might not be able to find something(my computer for work) that you know you were using the night before.  Piles maybe everywhere in your home and there is no food in the fridge.

You think to yourself "How the heck did I get here?"

I tried to prevent the chaos in the beginning of the week.  I realized I had too many things on my schedule. And that my husband was going to be away for work.  I did some rearranging.  I cancelled a meeting.  I was proactive. But it wasn't enough.

Realizing that the week was going to get messy and taking the steps to ease that fell short. 

I could have...

• Asked my kids for more help
• Planned meals ahead of time
• Noticed that I had 2 extra special event commitments for work 

But I didn't and that's OK.  I realized what I could have done.

And I did have right now, I realized. 

I did decide....

• To take a bath
• To watch a motivational video
• That to regain my sanity I had to do one task at a time in my home

So that is how I preceded.  I set a timer for 30 minutes and did the first thing that I noticed.  Washed the dishes until I was done.  Then I wiped down the counters and put the stuff away.  Then I ran the sweeper.   When that 30 minutes was up, I took a break for 10 minutes and wrote, then I went back to work...just progressing with one task at a time...

By the end, my house was straightened up, I found my computer for work, and I had more energy than I thought I would.

Guess what?  I'm not perfect and neither are you.  I'm doing the best I can and that is OK.

Noticing and learning to create a relaxed and easy life this year, might not be easy after all.

It comes down to noticing, being proactive, making sense of what I NEED to have the life I WANT, and making blunders, having chaos, and learning from it all and moving forward from all the messes I have created consciously and unconsciously.

Was it worth taking the bath and writing breaks in the mist of chaos?  You betcha!

I hope you address chaos in your life with kindness and compassion to your self and others.  Feel free to share how you cope below so we can all learn from each other!

Love,

Denise

(Written Feb 2017)